RSVP WWYD

[Anonymous]

My son’s 9th birthday party is on Sunday at an indoor play place. Invitations went out 2 weeks ago. Teacher put them in kids’ “go home” folders for us. They said to RSVP by phone by October 9. Just (at 2am on Saturday) got an email from a parent saying my son gave her daughter an invitation on the playground and they lost it—please confirm the date and time and give gift suggestions. (No “She will be there” or “Sorry I’m just letting you know now”). I checked—I can no longer change number of kids coming to party on venue’s online platform, but I’m guessing I could probably call and do it tomorrow —even though it’s going to be a crazy busy day. I’d made my son a goodie bag, so I do have one I could just give to this child. I kind of don’t want to do this, though. I know I am being petty but I don’t want to let such rudeness slide. Here’s for some really insane pettiness: I don’t like that the mom said my son gave the invitation on the playground. I feel like that comment was included to be mean: of course the invitation got lost. And it’s such an odd, untrue detail to include in a 3 sentence email. Also, I don’t know how she got my email address. We don’t have a class directory and I only gave my phone number. Weird. And finally, I googled the mom real quick and she seems to be some kind of influencer wanna be. Anyway, WWYD—call the venue and try to add one more and respond positively to this mom’s email or politely decline? I am not super worried for the child not being able to attend the party—my son seems to go to a birthday party every other weekend lately—there is no lack of opportunity to attend birthday parties. And I’m not worried about my son’s really wanting this child to come—he’s never mentioned her. I suppose I know the right thing to do and will do it but am curious—WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Most don't care. We had 40+ kids show up and planned for 20 due to lack of RSVP. After a lot of begging they let us order more food and I don't think they charged us for the full amount of kids as at some point they stopped counting. I'd have her come.

[Anonymous]

I would have her come. I bet at least one kid who did RSVP won’t show up.

[Anonymous]

I would respond and say you’re really sorry but you can’t add another kid as the venue cut off rsvps a few days ago.

[Anonymous]

I think you’re way overthinking it.
Maybe she asked another parent for your email. Why would you google the mom?
If you don’t care about the friendship say no nicely. If you care, then call the venue and add one.

[Anonymous]

Don't take it out on the kid. Extend grace.

[Anonymous]

Nobody sends physical invitations home at our school, also, it’s annoying to only put a phone # and no email. The mom was probably cleaning out the school bag end of week and asked her kid where the invite came from and the kid mentioned the playground where yours was probably talking about it. You sound controlling and petty - just add the kid.

[Anonymous]

I would probably take a minute to think, ugh, annoying, I don’t want to do this. And then I’d just call the place and ask if I could add her. Bright side: Maybe the venue will say no!

[Anonymous]

You sound absolutely crazy OP, especially the Googling part. I’d be happy the mom reached out rather than ignoring entirely and I’d have her kid come.

This wouldn’t take up much brain space at all for me but you really do seem unhinged.

[Anonymous]

I’d call the place. I don’t take out my annoyance at other parents’ oversights on their children.

[Anonymous]

Give grace. You never know when you will need it.

[Anonymous]

Glad you recognize your extreme level of pettiness because it is extreme. Of course I’d add the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Glad you recognize your extreme level of pettiness because it is extreme. Of course I’d add the kid.

+1 op give grace. Unanimous responses here. This doesn’t seem too much of an issue, things happen and sending invitations home that way is inherently risky. I don’t really understand why you’d be upset or think this is so rude to be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Glad you recognize your extreme level of pettiness because it is extreme. Of course I’d add the kid.

+1 op give grace. Unanimous responses here. This doesn’t seem too much of an issue, things happen and sending invitations home that way is inherently risky. I don’t really understand why you’d be upset or think this is so rude to be honest.

I agree with this poster. I truly don’t understand why you’re upset or think this is rude. The googling is odd and the influencer comment is really odd since it’s completely irrelevant to anything. The kid made a mistake about the playground and told mom the wrong thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would respond and say you’re really sorry but you can’t add another kid as the venue cut off rsvps a few days ago.

This is what I’d do.