When parenting styles differ

[Anonymous]

DS has ADHD and anxiety. It’s been a hard struggle to say the least. DH and I differ on a variety of topics (homework, chores, etc) and it’s causing tension. We are trying to find a way to move forward and I wanted to know What have you all done when your parenting styles clash? How do you work through things that both of you may consider to be “priorities” while also trying to support a child with lots of extra needs (and stay married!)? Any advice?

[Anonymous]

Great question!

I don't have an answer, but the three of us are going to family coaching/therapy next week as a start.

[Anonymous]

Get a third party involved, a psychologist or parent coach or such, who's aware of your kid's needs. Some parenting differences are to be expected. You need to figure out which ones are problematic.

[Anonymous]

Get your DH assessed for ADHD and anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a third party involved, a psychologist or parent coach or such, who's aware of your kid's needs. Some parenting differences are to be expected. You need to figure out which ones are problematic.

This has been effective for us too (if expensive). Then who is “right” isn’t the point - no one wins. It’s just about what is good for the kid. And usual tactics don’t always work for ND kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get your DH assessed for ADHD and anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Autistic Logistics has very practical tips