Who acknowledges your wedding anniversary

[Anonymous]

DH and I are in our 40s, been married for many years, and my mother always sends us anniversary wishes. Sometimes it feels like it’s too much. She’s one of these people who thinks family has a role in and has to be involved in everything. Is it too much to remember every one of your kid’s wedding anniversaries?

[Anonymous]

I think there are people like this, who remember and recognize every event on their calendar, and they're not going to change. Look on the bright side--she seems happy for you and wants to help you celebrate!

[Anonymous]

Both sets of parents do, and I kind of wish they wouldn’t, but it’s fine. We don’t recognize anyone’s anniversary—that’s their day, for them!

[Anonymous]

Both sets of our parents do — I don’t know why this would bother anyone?? We are both one of four and out of our collective 6 siblings, 2 sent a text. (Hit or miss whether we remember and acknowledge sibling anniversaries but always acknowledge parents.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are in our 40s, been married for many years, and my mother always sends us anniversary wishes. Sometimes it feels like it’s too much. She’s one of these people who thinks family has a role in and has to be involved in everything. Is it too much to remember every one of your kid’s wedding anniversaries?

I’m confused. Are you saying that saying “Happy Anniversary” to you once a year, and maybe sending a greeting card is “too much” and overly involved?

[Anonymous]

My MIL does and I think that’s totally normal.

I thought this post was about the couple and how I always am the one to remind my husband that our anniversary is approaching LOL. Not sure he would ever remember on his own.

[Anonymous]

Op, I’m glad I’m not the only one who is bothered by this, even though it’s so minor. My in laws always send us wishes in the family group chat, which results in cascading wishes. And then calls us also. I think of it as something my husband and I celebrate and would not mind being left alone. But it’s sweet and I guess it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

My wife's aunt sends us an e card every year, which seems weird to me, but she's one of those people. She likes sending cards. No one else does anything which is fine with us.

[Anonymous]

DCUMers are so antisocial. I’m old enough to remember when Hallmark had a dozen anniversary cards to send to happy couples (as in not for the people in the marriage to extend) and I’m a decade younger than the OP. This is totally normal.

[Anonymous]

You people are so petty. I don’t track people’s anniversaries, nor do I expect them to track mine. But in the grand scheme of things that thought that this negatively registers with any of you is absurd. Get over yourselves. Or grow a pair and let the fam know you hotly resent their well wishes.

[Anonymous]

No one (except my husband and I) acknowledges our wedding anniversary which is totally fine with me.

[Anonymous]

After 20 years no one remembers, including ourselves sometimes. 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there are people like this, who remember and recognize every event on their calendar, and they're not going to change. Look on the bright side--she seems happy for you and wants to help you celebrate!

This!! Some people just look for occasions to celebrate. We get anniversary wishes from two people (not including each other): one parent/IL (of 4 - all are divorced and leading separate lives), and one sibling (of the 6 siblings between us). Those two are the ones who keep a datebook with every birthday, anniversary, graduation date, and other milestone. It's their thing. This has been going on for almost 20 years.

[Anonymous]

DH, our kids, and his parents. Oh! And a friend of ours who has the same anniversary date as us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are in our 40s, been married for many years, and my mother always sends us anniversary wishes. Sometimes it feels like it’s too much. She’s one of these people who thinks family has a role in and has to be involved in everything. Is it too much to remember every one of your kid’s wedding anniversaries?

My parents, bridesmaids and my brother and his wife.