No registry wedding gift help!
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Anonymous
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Youngish (groom is 30, wife ??) couple with a no registry wedding. They live in Philadelphia in a small apartment.
Can’t attend and don’t really want to send cash. Groom is son of a close friend of my husband, so want to do something nice, about $200. I really don’t know much about them. Please help!!! |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| This is the exact situation for gifting cash! What's wrong with that?? |
Anonymous
| Fwiw, when we got married a couple of people went off registry and got movie tickets and restaurant gift cards. Both were super fun although cash is good too (and my hunch what they want). |
Anonymous
| Cash will be the most useful in this situation. Don’t buy stuff that they may not want or need. |
Anonymous
| A check op. You don’t send cash. |
Anonymous
| OP here. My husband, annoyingly, won’t do cash! |
Anonymous
| OP I mean he is against any solely monetary gift! |
Anonymous
Then let him do the figuring out, purchasing, and sending. Problem solved. |
Anonymous
| Tiffany—buy an Elsa Peretti thumb print bowl. |
Anonymous
Especially since this is his friend's child. |
Anonymous
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OMG.
This is a person that is connected to your family via your HUSBAND, and he’s the one who doesn’t want to give cash but YOU are the one crowd sourcing a solution to this problem?? You’re a doormat. “Alright honey, whatever you want to send them is fine with me.” Done. |
Anonymous
| Yeah for real if this is your husband’s problem then it’s your husband’s problem. |
Anonymous
| If he won't send a check, then send a gift card. Don't try to read their minds and get a gift they have to waste time returning or end up regifting. Really though a check is better than gift card. They can use the money absolutely anywhere and not be forced to use a store they don't like-even Amazon is annoying. |
Anonymous
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Op
Thanks all. Your entertaining commentary helped my husband understand that it is okay to give cash/check to young couple today! I could sit around and wait for my husband to do something, but I am having a “get it done” weekend. I currently have my husband crawling under the house to change the water filter! Thanks again for keeping me up to date on modern etiquette! |