Increasing your libido
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Anonymous
| What works or has worked for you? |
Anonymous
| Husband does more chores duh |
Anonymous
| Reading books with explicit sex scenes. |
Anonymous
I know you’re being sarcastic, but I agree that it doesn’t really work out. Because usually, if it is the case that the wife or husband hasn’t been pulling their weight, by the time they attempt to fix this for sex it’s too late. The resentment and contempt from the other spouse is often too entrenched, and sexual attraction is unable to be re-ignited. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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Woman here.
I started liking my own body more. I stopped being so busy I never got downtime. My kids got older and DH and I started spending intentional time together before bed every night. |
Anonymous
| Fresh blood. |
Anonymous
| OP is a woman, yes? Then simply get a new partner. Repeat every 10 months. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
+ a million. Sadly, this is the answer. |
Anonymous
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Gym makes a big difference for me, but as you pile up the positives in your life your libido will follow.
Ease off booze Go to bed early Good diet Break a daily sweat Work muscles daily Clean up your personal life Do something good for someone every day Double down on your relationship- date nights, turn your phone off When it’s all working you’ll be unstoppable. |
Anonymous
Hahahaha, true |
Anonymous
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If you're a woman, OP: Are you using hormonal birth control? The pill or other hormonal types of BC? For some women, the pill etc. can suppress libido. I would absolutely deal with your BC choices first if your libido is low or has dropped off-- at least rule out BC as a potential source of lowered libido, so if fixing BC does not work to increase libido, you can move on to other solutions. I found that the pill suppressed my libido, which increased greatly once I was off the pill. Ask your gynecologist about ensuring you are on the lowest possible dose BC if you do use it. Or alternatives to hormonal BC. Have you talked to your gynecologist about your lower libido? I would start there. Whether it's BC-related or not for you, your gyn should have heard it all and may have other ideas on helping you. |
Anonymous
DP adding to this re: intentional time: OP, if you are trying to have sex in the evenings at bedtime, and it's not working and you feel too tired etc., consider morning sex. Huge game-changer for my DH and me. Nights, we're tired or mentally preoccupied from the day. Waking up together and flowing into it early has proven much more conducive to more sex, more often. |
Anonymous
| Don't you have sexual experience to draw on? Haven't you been a sexual being for decades? |