When is a classroom unsafe? How would you handle? Kindergarten DD scratched in face and kicked in back at recess

[Anonymous]

The school is saying this student is dealing with anger management issues and that this is not the first classmate incident. They are monitoring the situation. Teacher profusely apologized and admitted she is struggling to retain control of the student. I have about a million emotions going at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Not acceptable.

[Anonymous]

It's still early in the school year- they are probably working to scaffold behavioral support for that kid still.

[Anonymous]

Ask for a classroom change.

[Anonymous]

Yep that’s what occurs in most classrooms these day. They are not going to move tgat kid and there is no where for them to go.

[Anonymous]

My kid was scratched in K, but it was a few years ago. I told him that his body would make a scab and heal and he would be ok. I also told him that kid was clearly unable to control him self and that he should stay away from that kid. I framed it something like: That kid is not strong like you and cannot control his mad. Because he isn’t in control, you can show how strong you are and just stay away from him.

I also told him to say “get away from me” in a loud voice and to tell the teacher if he bothered him after saying that.
He wasn’t scratched again, but it was the COVID year, so life stopped in March.

[Anonymous]

100% have the school move your child to a different class. The kid who hurt her will disrupt the class, monopolize the teacher’s attention, and take away from everyone’s ability to feel safe and learn all year. The system protects the perpetrator not the victims.

[Anonymous]

It's still early in the school year- they are probably working to scaffold behavioral support for that kid still.

Yep. They need to gather data, put supports into place, gather more data, intensify supports, etc. They have a process to follow.

I like the suggestion of the PP for how to coach your child through avoiding the kid, and I would wait and see. But if another incident happened, I would contact the principal and ask to meet to discuss your concerns (and options). They can't disclose anything about the child, but if they suggest a class change, that speaks volumes. (I think last year that exact scenario happened to a poster).

[Anonymous]

Take photos of any scratches or bruises, and put your concerns in writing to the principal. I’m sure the teacher is trying their best but this is unsafe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It's still early in the school year- they are probably working to scaffold behavioral support for that kid still.

Yep. They need to gather data, put supports into place, gather more data, intensify supports, etc. They have a process to follow.

I like the suggestion of the PP for how to coach your child through avoiding the kid, and I would wait and see. But if another incident happened, I would contact the principal and ask to meet to discuss your concerns (and options). They can't disclose anything about the child, but if they suggest a class change, that speaks volumes. (I think last year that exact scenario happened to a poster).

Such a banal approach to violence against children.

[Anonymous]

Move them.

[Anonymous]

You will lose your kid’s trust and respect if you don’t move them to a safe classroom, put them in private, or homeschool.
Ask me how I know.

[Anonymous]

Horace Mann?

[Anonymous]

Moving your kid likely isn't going to stop anything that happens at recess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The school is saying this student is dealing with anger management issues and that this is not the first classmate incident. They are monitoring the situation. Teacher profusely apologized and admitted she is struggling to retain control of the student. I have about a million emotions going at the same time.

Yes, this is normal in el classrooms nowadays. There is usually always 1 kid who acts out aggressively and the teacher has to basically have a plan to protect the other students from harm. The kid is usually a boy, who bites, hits, throws pencils, chairs, etc...I've seen it time and time again.