Are there states that/school districts that help 2e/HFA kids?
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Anonymous
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Can anyone recommend a state or district that will offer services for HFA teen? We will move given at least one job can be remote & spouse may have to stop working because we can’t afford to live here & the teen being recruited by Columbia is likely to be on disability & PSAT scores do not convey school refusal.
We’ve been fighting an unnamed local public school district since K. All that was initially diagnosed was ADHD-combined. School only offered a 504, despite neuropsych recommending IEP based on diagnostics predicting depression. Inflexibility was noted then. Psychiatrist wrote a letter adding for IEP based on my child becoming nonverbal in session in 2nd. Anxiety has manifested and the SCARED scores were relayed. Fast forward to middle & high school, massive school refusal starting in 6th. We had a few good years when child was in in gifted classes but those ended in 5th. New neuropsych, more diagnoses, repeated request for IEP denied. That middle school also refused to give meds (I called central office of Civil Rights & that was immediately remedied). This is before pandemic. When self-harm began, IEP granted but school gave As because student went to school one day and got an A on a test. No attendance in 9th, no homework completion =As (I can’t make this up). Finally an autism diagnosis (some are verbal). Now district pays attention. They school in Utah they refer users headphones with blaring music to wake up teens who won’t get out of bed. Lights go on every 15 min at night for safety checks. Can’t go outside without an adult. Seems scary and punitive for teen who is not aggressive & has never had a suicide attempt. Lots of schools for substance abuse, but no substance use ever. The super bright kid is not on track to go to college nor graduate high school. If sell house & remove ourselves from toxic school district, is there anywhere that will help her? We have a lawyer—that’s the only way we got an IEP. But we are drained of cash & can’t access retirement accounts because: a) we have to eat when older, and b) we will have age penalties. Continuing to pay legal fees at this point seems a waste of money. What should we do, where should we go? Family that is still alive is not local & our mothers who survive have dementia. One spouse could probably switch to a different fed job out of state, but current/long-held job requires is “essential” so there was no travel in pandemic & when govt shuts down will have to work without income until Congress stops bickering. We’re done with DC & mental health providers that don’t take insurance. We need to be elsewhere where all our neighbor kids are going to college & kids with autism did receive services all along—but white boys get diagnosed earlier. -exhausted & scared parent |
Anonymous
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I've heard Plano, TX is good.
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Anonymous
| We have had more than one friend move to New Jersey for the special education options, including one with a son who is 2e/HFA. He went from barely attending school to graduating from high school and going to college. |
Anonymous
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Also, if you're willing to consider private school in addition to moving, I've heard Temple Grandin School in Boulder is amazing for 2e/HFA kids.
https://www.templegrandinschool.org/ |
Anonymous
Thanks. Do you know which district, school? -OP |
Anonymous
On quick glance, it looks promising. Boulder is somewhere we’ve alway considered, even without these issues. I called but they’re closed. Any idea of tuition? |
Anonymous
Seriously or is this just a troll? Tell me more about the high school(s). |
Anonymous
NP. I have a friend who moved to Houston for the SN services. I wouldn't be surprised to hear that Piano is good for SN, or even better. |
Anonymous
Interesting. A friend from church told me years ago a family moved to TX because local school district would not budge. Kid went to TX and school district finally helped kid & provided services. |
Anonymous
I clicked on that but the intro letter really turned me off. I'm sure it's good for a certain type of kid but no thanks. |
Anonymous
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what do you mean “recruited by Columbia”?
did you try to get a private placement to deal with the school refusal? there are therapists that also treat school refusal. |
Anonymous
| MCPS has 2e programs. |
Anonymous
NP. It looked good for my ASD DC. We don't need something like that now, not yet. But it might be the sort of school we will need to look for in the future. |
Anonymous
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NP. Temple Grandin School tuition and fees:
Tuition & Fees During the first year of enrollment, all new students receive additional support services to ensure a smooth transition into the TGS community. A $2,500 deposit is due at the time of enrollment, and will be credited toward the student’s total tuition amount. 2023-2024 Newly Enrolled Students High School $44,025 Middle School $46,125 Returning Student Tuition High School $42,525 Middle School $44,625 Tuition Assistance Limited tuition assistance is available for both current and new families. Tuition assistance awards are determined by the Tuition Assistance committee, and awarded at the discretion of the Office of Admissions. All awards are based on a student’s demonstrated need, motivation for learning, and potential for the student and family’s active participation in the TGS community. https://www.templegrandinschool.org/admissions/ |
Anonymous
I've met several parents who felt the 2e program saved their kids lives. In those words. |