What "foreign" women can learn from American women

[Anonymous]

I don't like how the other thread turned into bashing American women. Here's what I believe I learned from my American peers:

- I learned that attention from men does not define my value
- I learned not to care what men think of the way I dress, style my hair, etc.
- I don't think "a feminist" is an offensive term, I am proud to be one
- I learned that it's okay to be sweet and nurturing with my kids in public
- I learned that other women (and men) mostly wish me well and try to make me feel accepted
- I learned how to offer help and ask for help
- I admire how American women can organize to effectively contribute to the community

[Anonymous]

Everyone can learn and teach something to and from others, that's how we grow and evolve as a person and as a species. Education isn't limited to books and classrooms.

[Anonymous]

Both of these threads are dumb. "Foreign" is hardly a monolith, and women from Germany and Vietnam will certainly have different views from each other.

[Anonymous]

I learned that its okay to expect and demand privacy and boundaries and give it to others too. My culture has a more enmeshed concept of family.

[Anonymous]

What does that mean enmeshed concept of family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both of these threads are dumb. "Foreign" is hardly a monolith, and women from Germany and Vietnam will certainly have different views from each other.

I am the OP, and I agree with you on the point that "foreign" is too broad of a term. Yet, it also means that we can learn different things from the new culture. My thread is partially to express my admiration for American women many of whom had a positive influence on my life. I learned a lot and will pay it forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both of these threads are dumb. "Foreign" is hardly a monolith, and women from Germany and Vietnam will certainly have different views from each other.

+1 agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of these threads are dumb. "Foreign" is hardly a monolith, and women from Germany and Vietnam will certainly have different views from each other.

+1 agree

to add.. I'm an immigrant female, and I have immigrant friends from all over, including Europe and South America.

[Anonymous]

That diversity is good, actually.
That marrying outside your own race and religion doesn’t have to be stigmatized.
That my place of birth and parents’ ethnicity doesn’t make me who I am as an individual.

[Anonymous]

They learn everybody needs some time on their own and everybody needs some time all alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of these threads are dumb. "Foreign" is hardly a monolith, and women from Germany and Vietnam will certainly have different views from each other.

I am the OP, and I agree with you on the point that "foreign" is too broad of a term. Yet, it also means that we can learn different things from the new culture. My thread is partially to express my admiration for American women many of whom had a positive influence on my life. I learned a lot and will pay it forward.

I'm so glad you had good experiences, and thank you for the comments. It is lovely to read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both of these threads are dumb. "Foreign" is hardly a monolith, and women from Germany and Vietnam will certainly have different views from each other.

I bet you could even find 2 women in Germany who have different views from each other.