agreed to volunteer position, but it's not what I thought
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Anonymous
| Over the past 20 years, I have held the same position in for the same organization in several different locations with a few breaks. I recently volunteered in a new location, only to learn the duties here are unsanctioned. I'm not interested in these tasks, nor do I feel I'm a good fit for them. Unfortunately, DH's immediate career could be affected if I back out or call them out on it. Any suggestions of how to politely back away? |
Anonymous
| What do you mean by "unsanctioned"? |
Anonymous
| I guess I would ask your husband for his advice |
Anonymous
Just tasks that aren't part of the position. Nothing illegal or immoral, more head-scratching. Like I said, I've done this more than once in the past. |
Anonymous
And I'll add, the actual duties aren't being performed. |
Anonymous
| You may need to come down with Covid and plan to be out for at least a month due to not feeling well and an abundance of caution. Once you've been gone that long they'll fill the role or it will be easier to just fade away! |
Anonymous
| Military? |
Anonymous
| I feel like I need more info to share my opinion. |
Anonymous
| I agree with talking to your husband about this. Could you find your own replacement? Or volunteer for an alternative position that you can claim is a better use of your skills? |
Anonymous
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Can you provide any more info about how this ties into DH’s career?
Frankly, the best way to back out without repercussions would be a white lie: taking a break to focus on xyz (home renovations, assisting elderly parents, spending more time with the kids, grandchild, training for a marathon, extensive travel etc). If you have any plausible excuse like the above (dig deep), would probably make things easier. If you really love the work (which apparently you do- that is great!) you can always pick up again in 6-12 months at which time you can renegotiate the role? The problem with the role may well solve itself in the meantime, also- things may change. |
Anonymous
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Find fellow volunteers and delegate the "unsanctioned" (not even sure what that means though) tasks.
As a veteran volunteer, embrace the change and spearheaded projects (or whatever you do) to turn it around. If you get push back, say your pet Project XYZ is more aligned with the values and mission as a whole of ABC Charity (or whatever fluff words you want to use) than their current model. |
Anonymous
| FRG leader? |
Anonymous
| Is this 1954? How in the world is your husband’s career affected? |
Anonymous
| You’re too in the weeds OP. |
Anonymous
| Say you have health concerns that prevent you from doing it. |