Kids talking during movies *at home*
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Anonymous
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This is not about in a movie theater ... When I watch a movie (or most tv), I do not want any talking. I am locked in. I like getting absorbed. I think it's a better experience. My 13yo son, however, can't restrain himself. He talks continually. It's always about the movie -- on the plot, on the production, etc. He's reacting to it and thinking about. It drives me absolutely insane, and often I want to yell at him or muzzle him. But then I think that this is how he enjoys the experience. He's teeming with thoughts and feelings. Is it really good to make him suppress that, just because it messes up my enjoyment?
(Again, different rules in a movie theater -- he knows he's not supposed to talk there.) Does anyone else struggle with this? How do you handle it? |
Anonymous
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You sound a little rigid. All you have to do is go back a few seconds. So I don't stop my teens from commenting on the production, plot or acting, but I will wave my hand at them irritably if they make me miss a key moment. Because then I have to hit the back button, and I'm lazy!
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Anonymous
You're *not* rigid? |
Anonymous
Because talking is tolerated. Why, what do you allow? |
Anonymous
| There’s a pause bitton for a reason |
Anonymous
| Why do you watch movies together? You and your son have different ways to enjoy the movie experience. If you try to curb him talking, then you may be curbing his excitement or enjoyment of the movie. So stop watching movies together. You don't enjoy it that way, so why make one person or the other person enjoy it less. With most streaming services, even rentals, you can watch for like a 48 hour period, so watch it separately at different times. Then you can enjoy it in peace and quiet and he can enjoy it as a more interactive experience. |
Anonymous
| DD is exactly the same way. I have learned to just accept it. |
Anonymous
I am your kid  . I get that it's annoying but I am ADD and otherwise it's hard to stay focused and I do sometimes miss stuff.
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Anonymous
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Yes you need to lighten up and if you want to watch a movie in silence you watch one without your child.
Watching a movie (or doing anything actually) with you child is about bonding, not the movie. Cooking - he might not be perfect or a little messy, who cares, your bonding. Walking - toddler are a pain in the ars they are slow, i can't get all my steps in ... too bad, your bonding Playing sports - yes they suck, then they are way better than you , you get a sliver in time that you can play at the same level. This is not about the movie. Fast forward 4 years and you will very.very.alone watching movies. |
Anonymous
| You're* |
Anonymous
| I like to talk during movies. I only watch with likeminded friends; it’s less stressful for all of us. If I do watch something on my own or with someone who likes quiet, I knit. Have you told your son you prefer to discuss after the fact? Tell him so and encourage him to work on a hands only hobby if he’s too jittery to watch and do nothing else. |
Anonymous
| I’m a movie talker, DH is not. Let him live OP, some of us like to keep a dialogue going. 😉 he will find his people I promise. |
Anonymous
| As a teenager is he still communicating with you at other times? If not, take this for that purpose and forget about watching the movie. |
Anonymous
| So your kid wants to interact with you while you’re spending time together? The horror. |
Anonymous
| He doesn't have to suppress it. He can talk to himself when he watches the movie alone because he can't shut up. |