What’s the worst thing you ever told your kid?

[Anonymous]

My 11 yr old daughter was in a bad mood Friday. She kept picking fights with her brother and with me.

While I was making dinner, she shot me an awful look. I meant to say “you may hate me, but I love you.” Instead, I said, “you hate me, but I can hate you more.”

She walked away crying and cried in her room while I made dinner. I felt awful of course, and apologized after dinner.

My daughter ate dinner, liked it, and played board games wi the the rest of the family all evening.

Still, I hate myself for what I said and don’t know how I can go on.

[Anonymous]

You immediately said you didn’t mean to say that and apologized right?

These things happen. She won’t remember the occasional thing said in anger. But she will remember in her brain and body if it becomes a pattern of verbal abuse. You now know you are prone to saying abusive things you don’t mean in anger. Time to figure that out and stop it.

[Anonymous]

My mom once threatened to cut my head off because I was having a meltdown when she was driving. I look back it and laugh.

Parents are HUMAN, and yes we shouldn't fight tween angst with more angst, but we are human. Don't beat yourself up.

[Anonymous]

To answer your question OP, I still feel very bad about this but my then 2.5yo was having an absolute shrieking fit in a public restroom and I shouted "WHY are you doing this to me."

Not great, but she knows I love her and toddlers are insanity-inducing.

[Anonymous]

I told DD I couldn’t be her mom anymore.

I was in the midst of a complete breakdown due to my ex-husband’s post-separation abuse. It was Mother’s Day, and he refused to return her because he told me she thought my Mother’s Day plans were dumb and she would rather spend time with him/his girlfriend/her kids. He wouldn’t let me talk to her when I called trying to figure out what was going on.

He brought her home after dinner (about 12 hours late). It was a really dark time, and I was in the verge of suicide. I regret it to this day.

[Anonymous]

My toddler was having an epic meltdown at bed and I told him if he didn't go to sleep I was going to throw out his stuffed animal. He went to bed. I didn't throw out the stuffed animal.

[Anonymous]

I mean, it wasn’t a good thing to say out loud, but it was factually correct; at that moment your subconscious hated your daughter and spoke faster than your superego could stop it. It is a terrible mistake to think you are incapable of hating your child and furthermore, you will be vengeful and vindictive towards them if you deny this. Next time, send her to her room for acting obnoxiously until she quits so that you won’t hate your child for acting obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You immediately said you didn’t mean to say that and apologized right?

These things happen. She won’t remember the occasional thing said in anger. But she will remember in her brain and body if it becomes a pattern of verbal abuse. You now know you are prone to saying abusive things you don’t mean in anger. Time to figure that out and stop it.

Agree with this, I am confused about why you didn't say I'm sorry right away but continued to make, then eat, dinner. You probably could have turned this into a funny moment and saying what you actually meant to say. But if your DD has forgiven you then you should forgive yourself and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My toddler was having an epic meltdown at bed and I told him if he didn't go to sleep I was going to throw out his stuffed animal. He went to bed. I didn't throw out the stuffed animal.

Toddler mom PP, this is very relatable

[Anonymous]

I told my kids that after the tornado we might have to wait several days for rescue from under the rubble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My toddler was having an epic meltdown at bed and I told him if he didn't go to sleep I was going to throw out his stuffed animal. He went to bed. I didn't throw out the stuffed animal.

Toddler mom PP, this is very relatable

in the sense that I relate to the toddler, yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told my kids that after the tornado we might have to wait several days for rescue from under the rubble.

Did you have to wait?

[Anonymous]

To STFU

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You immediately said you didn’t mean to say that and apologized right?

These things happen. She won’t remember the occasional thing said in anger. But she will remember in her brain and body if it becomes a pattern of verbal abuse. You now know you are prone to saying abusive things you don’t mean in anger. Time to figure that out and stop it.

Not true. Sorry OP she will remember this for her whole life. I remember my mom saying a few thing like this at low points of her otherwise good parenting

[Anonymous]

Other than that we’re all going to die at some point?

That she was being bratty.