Fewer women getting married

[Anonymous]

Now that more women are making real money and see the downsides of divorce, are fewer getting married bc of the financial risk?

[Anonymous]

I think it's less about the financial risk and more about the emotional risk. And they aren't seeing the downsides of divorce, they are seeing the downsides of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Less men than ever interested in getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Less men than ever interested in getting married.

I think it depends on the area you live for men and women.

[Anonymous]

Women are outpacing men in higher education and, sometimes, career, so have other options for financial security besides marriage. A man has to bring more than a paycheck to the table to be worth it.

[Anonymous]

I think women aren’t marrying because fewer men are marriageable. Marrying someone who makes less money than you, has less education than you, and will still expect you to carry out the bulk of household and child-rearing tasks isn’t attractive to many.

Women with significant means are also keeping men out of the children equation, which is protection from having your kids taken from you for 50% of the time, paying child support to a one night stand, etc.

For millennial parents of boys, this is leading to a drive to raise their boys to be high achieving and also contribute more to the household, because otherwise there is a serious chance they will never have grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

So what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think women aren’t marrying because fewer men are marriageable. Marrying someone who makes less money than you, has less education than you, and will still expect you to carry out the bulk of household and child-rearing tasks isn’t attractive to many.

Women with significant means are also keeping men out of the children equation, which is protection from having your kids taken from you for 50% of the time, paying child support to a one night stand, etc.

For millennial parents of boys, this is leading to a drive to raise their boys to be high achieving and also contribute more to the household, because otherwise there is a serious chance they will never have grandchildren.

That is so true: I'm 45 and met a LOT of men in early-mid 40s who want to get married and appear totally normal on surface. Yet no woman married them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think women aren’t marrying because fewer men are marriageable. Marrying someone who makes less money than you, has less education than you, and will still expect you to carry out the bulk of household and child-rearing tasks isn’t attractive to many.

Women with significant means are also keeping men out of the children equation, which is protection from having your kids taken from you for 50% of the time, paying child support to a one night stand, etc.

For millennial parents of boys, this is leading to a drive to raise their boys to be high achieving and also contribute more to the household, because otherwise there is a serious chance they will never have grandchildren.

I'm divorced, high NW woman making 400K/year. I plan to have my second child on my own when my first is off to college. Already froze embryos fertilized by donor sperm. No custody talks for me second time around, just NO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think women aren’t marrying because fewer men are marriageable. Marrying someone who makes less money than you, has less education than you, and will still expect you to carry out the bulk of household and child-rearing tasks isn’t attractive to many.

Women with significant means are also keeping men out of the children equation, which is protection from having your kids taken from you for 50% of the time, paying child support to a one night stand, etc.

For millennial parents of boys, this is leading to a drive to raise their boys to be high achieving and also contribute more to the household, because otherwise there is a serious chance they will never have grandchildren.

Agree with all of this. But the world is overpopulated and I really don’t care about grandchildren either way.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s due to finances. More and more women want to have kids with no man. The number of spiritual/emotional lesbians is exploding.

My theory is the introduction of “free love” curdled the relations between the sexes and it’s more of the norm for women to have an explicit hatred of men, rather than the exception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now that more women are making real money and see the downsides of divorce, are fewer getting married bc of the financial risk?

I don't think so, but they sure have options to not settle, get married or get divorce without financial worries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s due to finances. More and more women want to have kids with no man. The number of spiritual/emotional lesbians is exploding.

My theory is the introduction of “free love” curdled the relations between the sexes and it’s more of the norm for women to have an explicit hatred of men, rather than the exception.

Bullshit. Women want real partners and it’s difficult to find those. It’s very simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think women aren’t marrying because fewer men are marriageable. Marrying someone who makes less money than you, has less education than you, and will still expect you to carry out the bulk of household and child-rearing tasks isn’t attractive to many.

Women with significant means are also keeping men out of the children equation, which is protection from having your kids taken from you for 50% of the time, paying child support to a one night stand, etc.

For millennial parents of boys, this is leading to a drive to raise their boys to be high achieving and also contribute more to the household, because otherwise there is a serious chance they will never have grandchildren.

I'm divorced, high NW woman making 400K/year. I plan to have my second child on my own when my first is off to college. Already froze embryos fertilized by donor sperm. No custody talks for me second time around, just NO.

I think this is amazing— good luck to you and I foresee your kid being awesome.

I have an incredible husband, and we have a wonderful toddler, but if something were to happen to him I would absolutely use donor sperm to give my daughter a sibling and I would *never* share custody with a man for any reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think women aren’t marrying because fewer men are marriageable. Marrying someone who makes less money than you, has less education than you, and will still expect you to carry out the bulk of household and child-rearing tasks isn’t attractive to many.

Women with significant means are also keeping men out of the children equation, which is protection from having your kids taken from you for 50% of the time, paying child support to a one night stand, etc.

For millennial parents of boys, this is leading to a drive to raise their boys to be high achieving and also contribute more to the household, because otherwise there is a serious chance they will never have grandchildren.

I'm divorced, high NW woman making 400K/year. I plan to have my second child on my own when my first is off to college. Already froze embryos fertilized by donor sperm. No custody talks for me second time around, just NO.

I cannot imagine wanting to do all that alone though. It’s so exhausting and demanding.