For gay dads: do you spend much time with other gay dad families?

[Anonymous]

This question is specifically for other 2 gay dad families raising kids.

We live in dc and we regrettably don’t seem to have any other gay dad families with whom we hang out. Curious for takes of others. I tend to think this is a function of age, as 2 dad gay families were way less prevalent 13-14 years ago. I in fact think it would be far more common with dads with younger kids today. But we could also just be outliers

[Anonymous]

We are in the same boat - we are a two gay dad family with a 4 year old daughter and would love to have some more dad couples to hang out with and for our daughter to know. We are also in DC. But it seems impossible to find any.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried rainbow families events as a way to meet other dads?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried rainbow families events as a way to meet other dads?

Have they held an actual event in years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried rainbow families events as a way to meet other dads?

Have they held an actual event in years?

Three or four I’ve attended this summer (I’m a mom but I’ve met several two dad families there). You could also ask for a specific support group for dads; they run them for single parents, adoptive parents, divorced parents, etc etc etc. which is nice for making actual friends to connect with more regularly. They’ve also recently started some play date group chats for different areas in the DMV so folks can meet up more casually although you have to be on Facebook for this unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried rainbow families events as a way to meet other dads?

Have they held an actual event in years?

They're having a picnic at Hillwood Estate on September 24. We're gay moms but plan on going.

https://rainbowfamiliesdc.org/event-5051369

[Anonymous]

We have attended the picnic before and will probably do so again. I feel like it’s hard to meet new people at these things as it feels like people show up with their crew and aren’t there to meet new people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have attended the picnic before and will probably do so again. I feel like it’s hard to meet new people at these things as it feels like people show up with their crew and aren’t there to meet new people.

I definitely agree about the picnic/big events! It’s so hard to meet people. But I’m hoping for better luck with the playdate meetup groups. They seem smaller and more casual. Also more local — I actually got on well with one family I managed to meet at a pride storytime but unfortunately they live out in Burke so it’s not like meeting up with them is easy.

[Anonymous]

We live close to Burke and we gay dad with a 3 yo, would be nice to meet up with similar families

[Anonymous]

Any non-traditional family will have to be happy being who they are, surrounded by traditional families.

I have a White parent and an Asian parent and I grew up in an area (not in the US) where we were the only foreigners for a long time, not to mention the only mixed-race couple in our neighborhood, and at my school. Due to my father's job, we moved from country to country, and it was only in high school that I met other mixed-raced children. I am 44.

It didn't bother me that no other family was like ours, since I didn't know what I was missing. But seeing so many mixed families today makes me so happy!

Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

2 mom family here -

FWIW, when our kids were younger we tried to go to all of these events so they could meet other kids with 2 moms/2 dads and as they got older (about 7-8) what we realized was that they didn't can who their friend's parents were. And our friends became the families we hung out with at soccer games/PTA meetings/lacrosse/etc.

- empty nester