Weird situations

[Anonymous]

Person 1 made A happen, then by happenstance tragic B occurred.

Everyone ceased doing A, except clueless or purposeful Person 2.

Person 1 is now triggered by Person 2 doing A.

I've tried to demonstrate to Person 2 what you could do instead.

Ugh, the cycle goes on and on...

[Anonymous]

This is a really stupid post. Just add more details or don't post at all.

[Anonymous]

I'm triggered by posts like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a really stupid post. Just add more details or don't post at all.

Well I don't want to give too many details. If you've ever experienced anything like this do tell what happened in the end??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a really stupid post. Just add more details or don't post at all.

Well I don't want to give too many details. If you've ever experienced anything like this do tell what happened in the end??

A^2+B^2=no one cares op

[Anonymous]

I could follow a math equation more easily than this.

[Anonymous]

Any way to make things better?

Dang, I care! I like harmony.

[Anonymous]

Yea OP it’s one thing to want to preserve anonymity and another to be a nutjob.

Your post is really really stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a really stupid post. Just add more details or don't post at all.

Well I don't want to give too many details. If you've ever experienced anything like this do tell what happened in the end??

We don't know what you're talking about.

Person 1 planned a surprise party for her spouse, then by happenstance her DH had a heart attack when everyone yelled "SURPRISE!"

Everyone ceased planning surprise parties, except clueless or purposeful Person 2.

Person 1 is now triggered by Person 2 planning surprise parties.

I've tried to demonstrate to Person 2 what you could do instead, which is not plan surprise parties.

Ugh, the cycle goes on and on...


???

[Anonymous]

It really depends on what it is. Person A maybe needs therapy and to stop dictating what others do. Person A is maybe justified. Person B should maybe not do activity around Person A. Regardless, you should stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Well, maybe Person 2 doesn't really care about Person 1's feelings. Or Person 2 loves surprise parties so much that she won't stop throwing them.

Either way, why are intervening between Person 1 and Person 2?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, maybe Person 2 doesn't really care about Person 1's feelings. Or Person 2 loves surprise parties so much that she won't stop throwing them.

Either way, why are intervening between Person 1 and Person 2?

Because OP is annoying. Its the only clear thing in her posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on what it is. Person A maybe needs therapy and to stop dictating what others do. Person A is maybe justified. Person B should maybe not do activity around Person A. Regardless, you should stay out of it.

Yes, I agree with this. Person A seems controlling and like he is the man in charge ( he has that little man syndrome ).

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing. If the tragic thing that happened was more than, say, a year ago, and wasn't insanely tragic, but more middle of the road tragic (think, my 70 year old mom died of cancer vs. my 4 year old died in a freak accident), then I'm Team Person 2.

You can't walk on eggshells around people forever. Yes, stopping for a bit was kind, but assuming that activity A is a fine thing to do (ie, activity A isn't like drunk driving or something), then the world cannot stop forever for Person 1. They need to manage their own mental health in a way so they can manage the world continuing to go on. Meanwhile, Person 2 needs to be understanding and respectful - it's likely Person 1 won't join in, and that has to be fine, and Person 2 probably shouldn't prattle on and on about his activity in front of Person 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing. If the tragic thing that happened was more than, say, a year ago, and wasn't insanely tragic, but more middle of the road tragic (think, my 70 year old mom died of cancer vs. my 4 year old died in a freak accident), then I'm Team Person 2.

You can't walk on eggshells around people forever. Yes, stopping for a bit was kind, but assuming that activity A is a fine thing to do (ie, activity A isn't like drunk driving or something), then the world cannot stop forever for Person 1. They need to manage their own mental health in a way so they can manage the world continuing to go on. Meanwhile, Person 2 needs to be understanding and respectful - it's likely Person 1 won't join in, and that has to be fine, and Person 2 probably shouldn't prattle on and on about his activity in front of Person 1.

Activity A is a totally fine thing to do, but it's only been a few months so I think everyone has not healed yet. It's just exhausting because we are all still walking on eggshells. What I think would help is if Person1 and Person 3 (the person that actually had the tragic event happen to would make peace) and then maybe Person 1 would not carry the guilt/shame or trigger of the event as much. I think that is what is happening. In the meantime, we continue to walk on eggshells except Person2 who either purposefully or cluelessly still does activity A. Thus the cycle continues.