Traveling while adult kids are living at home, do you all go?

[Anonymous]

With 3 kids, we really only traveled to visit family every few years. Now that kids are older, we would like to travel more. Do we need to take all the adult kids with us on every trip? Like to Europe? Or can we just leave them at home? I should add two live at home as adults (and work full time) and one is in college. If we have to wait until we have an empty nest that's at least 3 years away. I am wondering what other families do?

[Anonymous]

You don't have to, no. I'd take them sometimes, but also feel free to take trips with just you and your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Go on your own. You've earned it.

[Anonymous]

Go on your own. My parents did this even when I was in high school (older sibs or family friends stayed with us) and there were no hard feelings. Bring them occasionally if you want but definitely go enjoy yourself!

[Anonymous]

You can do whatever you want. You can take some trips without them, or invite them for part of some trips, or take them on all trips.

[Anonymous]

No, adult kids can stay home alone. Do they have the time off and inclination to travel with you all the time? As adults living with parents, I can only imagine they would revel in the opportunity for you to be gone (at least I probably would).

[Anonymous]

You can just go. My parents travelled alone when i was in HS too.

[Anonymous]

I am an only child and until I left the parental home at 20 for grad school, we always traveled together, my parents and I. But your family is larger, so...

[Anonymous]

They likely won't have much vacation time in their early jobs. And having them to house-sit is a huge perk. Leave them home unless they really want to come. If it is to visit extended family that's different.

[Anonymous]

I would ask if they want to go. Might be a good chance to bond. They are old enough that you could go your separate ways for part of the day and meet up for dinners, etc.

[Anonymous]

You have no obligation to sustain your adult children. At some level you've failed that they are at home. Let them know that if they want to travel they need to fund it. Personally, I'd let them live at home, but they have to pay (a very small fee).

[Anonymous]

It depends on the trip.

[Anonymous]

I think it is fine to go on your own...but you can still plan family trips as well. I would think young adults do not have the leave to vacation much and will also plan some trips with their own friends.

[Anonymous]

You go on your own. My parents left me home alone in high school and traveled without me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have no obligation to sustain your adult children. At some level you've failed that they are at home. Let them know that if they want to travel they need to fund it. Personally, I'd let them live at home, but they have to pay (a very small fee).

LOL! Troll fail! I don't think you every have to worry about your adult children living with you!