Is this unreasonable for a 12 year old?

[Anonymous]

My girl has gorgeous, naturally wavy (sometimes frizzy) long, dirty blonde hair. She is envious of my very fine poker straight hair and is always lamenting she didn’t get my type of hair. She wants to have her hair professionally washed and straightened every week. It’s $50 not including tip. She says she will pay for it. I feel like this is excessive and I can’t imagine ever asking this of my mom at the same age but she is almost 13 and makes her own money babysitting and dog walking and if this is how she wants to spend it, the only thing I have to do is drive her to and from the appointments. I’m wondering who would try to talk their tween out of this and make her realize what a long-term financial investment it is to try to discourage or just let her do it because it build her confidence and makes her feel good about herself?

[Anonymous]

Have a stylist teach her to do it herself.

[Anonymous]

If she wants to use her own money, I would let her do it.

[Anonymous]

At first I thought to myself, spending that much on hair styling for a 12 year old is ridiculous and inappropriate.

But...if she is industrious enough to be able to pay for it herself with money she is earning from actual work? Heck, let her do it. She may decide it isn't worth it, she may decide it is. You might include some discussion about money and budgeting ... is she able to save as well? Give some money to charity?

[Anonymous]

For a special occasion fine, but otherwise no. However, I'd help her blow it out as its still hard to do at her age.

[Anonymous]

If she’s making the money…

But as someone with a similar hair type warn her how much damage she will do. I’ve finally embraced my natural curl and my hair is so much healthier

[Anonymous]

Is the frizz pretty wild? If her issue is legit, I would maybe agree to let her try it for 3-4 weeks at which point you will talk with her and then decide if she's allowed to continue.

My concern would be she wants the hair for sex appeal to her peers in videos or photos online. I'm not saying that's what's happening at all, but I would be concerned if she wants it for attention.

[Anonymous]

I'd split the cost of a dyson or something with her and let her do it herself. The time alone for going weekly is ridiculous at that age. I'd also suspect she wouldn't get a full week or much out of it, assuming she does sports?

[Anonymous]

Maybe I’m misunderstanding her hair type but why isn’t a straightening iron at home an option? I have very thick wavy hair that can be frizzy so I use one. It takes about 5 minutes once you have the technique down. My daughter has the same type of hair as me and I used to do it for on occasion when she didn’t want to deal with her hair waves. But to answer your specific question, at that age I’d offer to take her on a special occasion but that’s a lot of money and time spent for her age.

[Anonymous]

get her the Dyson air straight. game changer.

or if she has the cash, let her get it or [pay half. myself and my 2 daughters use it. awesome works great, and is quick. would pay for itself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:get her the Dyson air straight. game changer.

or if she has the cash, let her get it or [pay half. myself and my 2 daughters use it. awesome works great, and is quick. would pay for itself

i should say, we had the airwrap and still use, but i bought the new air straight and it is so much better for straightening and time saving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:get her the Dyson air straight. game changer.

or if she has the cash, let her get it or [pay half. myself and my 2 daughters use it. awesome works great, and is quick. would pay for itself

Can you link the exact model?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:get her the Dyson air straight. game changer.

or if she has the cash, let her get it or [pay half. myself and my 2 daughters use it. awesome works great, and is quick. would pay for itself

Can you link the exact model?

https://gprivate.com/65lhl

[Anonymous]

Has she educated herself in the Curly Girl Method? I'd look into that before a blow out because the more you straighten the longer it takes to go back curls

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My girl has gorgeous, naturally wavy (sometimes frizzy) long, dirty blonde hair. She is envious of my very fine poker straight hair and is always lamenting she didn’t get my type of hair. She wants to have her hair professionally washed and straightened every week. It’s $50 not including tip. She says she will pay for it. I feel like this is excessive and I can’t imagine ever asking this of my mom at the same age but she is almost 13 and makes her own money babysitting and dog walking and if this is how she wants to spend it, the only thing I have to do is drive her to and from the appointments. I’m wondering who would try to talk their tween out of this and make her realize what a long-term financial investment it is to try to discourage or just let her do it because it build her confidence and makes her feel good about herself?

Unhealthy and wasteful, but sometimes you have to learn that lesson the expensive way.