Backyard pool question

[Anonymous]

It's summer, we have a pool and our neighbor who has no kids has a pool.

The neighbors across the street do not and they have kids. I've thought about asking the neighbor if their kids, who my kids are not friends with to come over and use our pool. But I've hesitated bc we don't know them and my kids don't like one of their kids from school.

But then it also got me thinking, am I too nice to even think of that? We also have a community pool.

Also, my neighbor next door who has a pool and has no children at home, is she obligated to offer her pool?

Why do I think like this? I think it's because I grew up with a dad who always said " me casa, su casa" to all my friends and family that came over and visited.

Your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Do you like your neighbors? I wish you were my neighbor and would invite me!

[Anonymous]

You are not obligated. Only offer if you actually want them there. Also, do it as a play date, not an open ended invitation to use your pool. There are safety and liability issues here as well as kid and neighbor relations.

[Anonymous]

No one is obligated to offer their pool.

I wouldn’t invite over a family that I don’t know and one of my kids doesn’t like from school.

[Anonymous]

Would you mind if they came over regularly, OP? Because that might happen.

I would love it if my neighbors who don't use their pools let us use theirs!

[Anonymous]

Don't do it, you'll regret it and if they have access to a neighborhood pool its not needed.

[Anonymous]

Op you and neighbor are not obligated at all! And I would not start down this road, with kids your kids don’t even like.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Damn it, I'm too nice.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t do this because of liability issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you and neighbor are not obligated at all! And I would not start down this road, with kids your kids don’t even like.

Thanks. Wish we lived in a world where we could be more friendly but you are right annoyances around every corner.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't start a trend of inviting kids that my own children don't like to use our pool

[Anonymous]

Hell no, don't do this.
We have a pool, and there's also a community pool, and we only invite people on a specific invitation basis, and usually around our kids and their friends. No way would I open up that liability to anyone else.

[Anonymous]

You say you're too nice but in the same breath are willing to invite a stranger kid over to your pool when you know one of your kids don't like them. That's wild to me. I'd be careful not to confuse your version of you and niceness with martyrdom or knight in shining armor complex.

If you'd like to do something nice to make you and everyone feel good without lingering issues or weirdness in or outside your home - schedule a summer event and invite your block for a party to include the poor pool-less souls.

[Anonymous]

Hard to imagine having this problem, I think most people with pools struggle to figure out how to keep the neighbor kids out.The liability issue is huge, consider the idea that you aren't home, a kid who loves swimming in your pool is wandering around and decides to take a quick unsupervised dip. The mind boggles!

If you do invite the neighbors over for a pool party consider a rule that parents must watch their kids every moment the kid is outside in your yard. Even that is hard to enforce.

[Anonymous]

Do NOT invite them over. 1. Your kid doesn't like them. 2. They have access to a community pool.

It's nice that you want to be nice but the most important person to be nice to is YOUR CHILD.