Weird mom interaction

[Anonymous]

I had a mom schedule a meeting with me the other day, wanting to talk to me about something "in person".

She reported that her daughter had witnessed a bullying incident at school involving my daughter. I tried to press her for details but she was fairly vague. She only told me that there was a group of kids commenting to my daughter that she didn't talk much. And that the way that my daughter responded led her to believe that this wasn't the first time this ever happened. She said she knew my daughter had expressed to me that she wasn't too thrilled with school (which I shared with her), and that she thought I should know what happened. As she was telling me the story, she literally started tearing up. And inside, I was thinking, that's not even bullying! I did ask some questions as to whether it was possible that her daughter misread the situation, but she explained further that the comments were said in a bullying tone. And I didn't want to come off too dismissive, so I thanked her for sharing and then left.

When I got home, I talked to my daughter about it. She literally had no idea what I was talking about. No one had said anything like that to her. She's usually fine with telling me about things about her day, and in fact complains to me about a lot of random stuff, so it was just really strange the way the other mom brought this up as such a big deal.

What is the deal?

[Anonymous]

It's a possibility that your dd is embarrassed to admit this happened and possible that the woman made it up. You know your dd

[Anonymous]

This post sounds strangely familiar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a possibility that your dd is embarrassed to admit this happened and possible that the woman made it up. You know your dd

I feel pretty confident that it didn't happen. So on further thought, maybe it was the other girl that was making it up. Maybe she was the one being bullied and instead told her mom it was my daughter??

[Anonymous]

OP you’re clueless. It WAS your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Try writing your daughter a note. Even if she doesn't want you to do anything about it, it's good for you to know if she's being bullied. Sometimes kids can write what they can't say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you’re clueless. It WAS your daughter.

Sometimes you just know. I read my kids really well - I can tell in an instant if something is bothering them or if they're off. From how she responded, it was clear that it didn't happen.

[Anonymous]

Could you daughter be worried that if she confirmed this incident happened, you would take some sort of action that could result in your daughter being bullied further for tattling?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post sounds strangely familiar.

+1

I also was having a deja vu moment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could you daughter be worried that if she confirmed this incident happened, you would take some sort of action that could result in your daughter being bullied further for tattling?

I suppose this is possible. But again, based on how she responded, she really had no idea what I was talking about.

[Anonymous]

People interpret situations differently. I would not give this a second thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This post sounds strangely familiar.

+1

I also was having a deja vu moment

I’m 95% sure this exact scenario was posted before.