How to deal with no s3x during IVF

[Anonymous]

We're currently on week 3 of no s3x. 1 week post egg retrieval, high risk OHSS. This sucks.

[Anonymous]

You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

I have 2 kids and have never waited 6 weeks after birth but thanks for the snark.

[Anonymous]

It does but think of the reward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're currently on week 3 of no s3x. 1 week post egg retrieval, high risk OHSS. This sucks.

Just give your reproductive organs a rest. They’ve been through a lot with stims/ER. And OHSS is no joke. And hope that you don’t end up with a high-risk pregnancy that will have a much longer abstinence period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're currently on week 3 of no s3x. 1 week post egg retrieval, high risk OHSS. This sucks.

Is everything forbidden or just PIV? I forget what they told us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

I have 2 kids and have never waited 6 weeks after birth but thanks for the snark.

Love that one person’s anecdotal experience is now standard medical advice.

Or the PP doesn’t understand the word “typical”.

Regardless if OP can’t go three weeks celibate they have bigger problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

I have 2 kids and have never waited 6 weeks after birth but thanks for the snark.

Love that one person’s anecdotal experience is now standard medical advice.

Or the PP doesn’t understand the word “typical”.

Regardless if OP can’t go three weeks celibate they have bigger problems.

No the PP was assuming that because I'm infertile that I don't have kids and being a b&tch. That's not helpful.

When you are pumped full of hormones and told not to have sex, yes, that sucks. When you also are dealing with loss, feelings of inadequacy you want intimacy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

I have 2 kids and have never waited 6 weeks after birth but thanks for the snark.

Love that one person’s anecdotal experience is now standard medical advice.

Or the PP doesn’t understand the word “typical”.

Regardless if OP can’t go three weeks celibate they have bigger problems.

No the PP was assuming that because I'm infertile that I don't have kids and being a b&tch. That's not helpful.

When you are pumped full of hormones and told not to have sex, yes, that sucks. When you also are dealing with loss, feelings of inadequacy you want intimacy

Sorry, I’m not sure if you’re OP (or if any of the PPs were OP). If you are, it’s unclear what you are looking for here.

The answer to your question “how to deal” is just to deal with it. Accept it as any other temporary medical restriction and put on your grown up panties.

Or are you asking for alternatives to PIV? Do you need ideas for other types of intimacy?

Or are you looking for people to tell you to ignore medical advice and just go for it?

You don’t have a lot of options but hopefully the end result is a baby!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

I have 2 kids and have never waited 6 weeks after birth but thanks for the snark.

Love that one person’s anecdotal experience is now standard medical advice.

Or the PP doesn’t understand the word “typical”.

Regardless if OP can’t go three weeks celibate they have bigger problems.

No the PP was assuming that because I'm infertile that I don't have kids and being a b&tch. That's not helpful.

When you are pumped full of hormones and told not to have sex, yes, that sucks. When you also are dealing with loss, feelings of inadequacy you want intimacy

Sorry, I’m not sure if you’re OP (or if any of the PPs were OP). If you are, it’s unclear what you are looking for here.

The answer to your question “how to deal” is just to deal with it. Accept it as any other temporary medical restriction and put on your grown up panties.

Or are you asking for alternatives to PIV? Do you need ideas for other types of intimacy?

Or are you looking for people to tell you to ignore medical advice and just go for it?

You don’t have a lot of options but hopefully the end result is a baby!

I'm asking for other people's experiences. Have you been through IVF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

I have 2 kids and have never waited 6 weeks after birth but thanks for the snark.

Love that one person’s anecdotal experience is now standard medical advice.

Or the PP doesn’t understand the word “typical”.

Regardless if OP can’t go three weeks celibate they have bigger problems.

No the PP was assuming that because I'm infertile that I don't have kids and being a b&tch. That's not helpful.

When you are pumped full of hormones and told not to have sex, yes, that sucks. When you also are dealing with loss, feelings of inadequacy you want intimacy

Sorry, I’m not sure if you’re OP (or if any of the PPs were OP). If you are, it’s unclear what you are looking for here.

The answer to your question “how to deal” is just to deal with it. Accept it as any other temporary medical restriction and put on your grown up panties.

Or are you asking for alternatives to PIV? Do you need ideas for other types of intimacy?

Or are you looking for people to tell you to ignore medical advice and just go for it?

You don’t have a lot of options but hopefully the end result is a baby!

I'm asking for other people's experiences. Have you been through IVF?

Yes. My experience is that I followed doctors’ instructions and survived weeks just fine. There aren’t many options so you won’t be getting a wide range of experiences.

I didn’t mention it before but maybe mention to your doctor? Maybe a medication adjustment is needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

I have 2 kids and have never waited 6 weeks after birth but thanks for the snark.

NP. No sex for 6 weeks after giving birth is what I was also told. Snark was from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

I have 2 kids and have never waited 6 weeks after birth but thanks for the snark.

Love that one person’s anecdotal experience is now standard medical advice.

Or the PP doesn’t understand the word “typical”.

Regardless if OP can’t go three weeks celibate they have bigger problems.

No the PP was assuming that because I'm infertile that I don't have kids and being a b&tch. That's not helpful.

When you are pumped full of hormones and told not to have sex, yes, that sucks. When you also are dealing with loss, feelings of inadequacy you want intimacy

Sorry, I’m not sure if you’re OP (or if any of the PPs were OP). If you are, it’s unclear what you are looking for here.

The answer to your question “how to deal” is just to deal with it. Accept it as any other temporary medical restriction and put on your grown up panties.

Or are you asking for alternatives to PIV? Do you need ideas for other types of intimacy?

Or are you looking for people to tell you to ignore medical advice and just go for it?

You don’t have a lot of options but hopefully the end result is a baby!

I'm asking for other people's experiences. Have you been through IVF?

Yes. My experience is that I followed doctors’ instructions and survived weeks just fine. There aren’t many options so you won’t be getting a wide range of experiences.

I didn’t mention it before but maybe mention to your doctor? Maybe a medication adjustment is needed.

+1

We just abstained.

If you want intimacy could you just snuggle? Masturbate if you’re not too tender?

[Anonymous]

Lol you went through a different IVF cycle than me. Sorry you're having difficulty with this aspect of the process

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s typically six weeks of nothing in the vagina after childbirth right?

I have 2 kids and have never waited 6 weeks after birth but thanks for the snark.

Love that one person’s anecdotal experience is now standard medical advice.

Or the PP doesn’t understand the word “typical”.

Regardless if OP can’t go three weeks celibate they have bigger problems.

No the PP was assuming that because I'm infertile that I don't have kids and being a b&tch. That's not helpful.

When you are pumped full of hormones and told not to have sex, yes, that sucks. When you also are dealing with loss, feelings of inadequacy you want intimacy

Sorry, I’m not sure if you’re OP (or if any of the PPs were OP). If you are, it’s unclear what you are looking for here.

The answer to your question “how to deal” is just to deal with it. Accept it as any other temporary medical restriction and put on your grown up panties.

Or are you asking for alternatives to PIV? Do you need ideas for other types of intimacy?

Or are you looking for people to tell you to ignore medical advice and just go for it?

You don’t have a lot of options but hopefully the end result is a baby!

I'm asking for other people's experiences. Have you been through IVF?

Yes. My experience is that I followed doctors’ instructions and survived weeks just fine. There aren’t many options so you won’t be getting a wide range of experiences.

I didn’t mention it before but maybe mention to your doctor? Maybe a medication adjustment is needed.

+1

We just abstained.

If you want intimacy could you just snuggle? Masturbate if you’re not too tender?

Just as aging will require you, as a couple, to expand your definition of “intimacy,” so it is now.

While PIV is not medically permitted, you could still cuddle, then manually pleasure each other.

Or self-stimulate together in each other’s arms. Ask your doctor if oral is permitted.

When we are separated for travel, we’ve had video-intimacy through FaceTime; you could do the same, just in the same room with each other.

You might also try out fantasy roll-play (find suggestions online) ending in stimulation to orgasm other than PIV. Be creative and have fun!