Deaf child—how would you wish me to handle this?
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Anonymous
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Over the winter in the late evening hours we would occasionally hear this constant howling. We honestly thought it was an animal of some sort as we back to a wooded nature preserve, and thought that perhaps since we only heard it at night, it was something nocturnal. Maybe a fox or coyote. It occasionally wakes up our sleeping toddler when it gets our dog going.
We have newish neighbors a few houses down and one of their children is completely deaf. Well, not that the days are nicer and we are ourselves outside more and have windows open, we hear it even louder than before. It’s always well after dark, but after being outside this past weekend, we realize it’s the neighbor boy playing in his backyard! My husband theorizes that the boy can’t hear how loud he sounds. We use fans and noise machine in our toddlers room, but the dog hears everything, even from our basement. Do I need to just adjust somehow, or is there a tactful way to let the parents know? |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't do anything. I'm sure they will teach him not to be loud as soon as they are able. It probably sounds a lot more annoying to them since they are closer to it. |
Anonymous
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Handle it the same way you'd handle it if the kid was outside screaming at 8pm, and understand if the kid can't regulate his volume.
If the noise upsets your dog, can you take your dog over to meet the kid and have the kid give your dog a treat, then make their noise and give the dog a treat again so the dog understands it's not a noise to be upset at? |
Anonymous
| Sounds like you have a dog problem not a neighbor problem. A dog trainer can help desensitize the dog to the noise. |
Anonymous
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Live with it somehow
Say nothing. Count your blessings. |
Anonymous
| No, there is no tactful way to tell parents than their deaf toddler is too loud. |
Anonymous
The high pitched howl is literally the only thing that gets him going. This is a brand new behavior. It’s just so unexpected, I think, when it’s dark out and the world is quiet. |
Anonymous
That goes without saying. |
Anonymous
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Dog trainer is the obvious solution
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Anonymous
Nobody would say this if it was a bratty kid without special needs. |
Anonymous
This isn’t a bratty kid so that is why people are being empathetic. Except you- you are not being empathetic to a deaf child. |
Anonymous
| How old is the child? |
Anonymous
That wasn’t me, I am empathetic |
Anonymous
Around 11-12 |
Anonymous
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Maybe try getting to know your neighbors and their child? Instead of just rushing to DCUM to complain about the loud deaf kid making your dog bark?
Hug your kids tonight, OP, someone out there will be awful to them one day. |