Waaay graphic birth pictures on facebook?

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine delivered two days ago, and has a public photo album on her facebook page with shots of the delivery. It is really something. . .close ups of the baby crowning, shots of completely naked mom delivering, one from behind pushing on all fours, etc.

I showed it to my husband, and he said, "WHOAA! HEY NOW!! Wasn't expecting to see THAT!" He admitted that it might be a little strange seeing our friend initially after this.

Are we prudes? She has 419 friends. Everyone has access. And anyone can grab and copy these pictures. Just wow.

[Anonymous]

I think it isn't completely out of bounds to email your friend and say- hi, did you mean for these to be accessible to all 419 people on your FB (and if they aren't restricted to "friends" they're accessible to the whole world)?

It's possible since she just delivered that someone else posted those on her behalf without thinking/knowing about privacy concerns.

I think birth is an amazing wonderful thing, but I don't need to see anybody crowning except my own kid.

[Anonymous]

OP here, and I totally agree with you. The mom in me found some of the pictures really lovely and magical. They took my breath away. But she is my CLOSE friend. Another part of me felt violated for her, in the sense that others she barely knows any more have access.

Another friend of ours says this is no different from the photos we have all seen in "A Child is Born" and other pictorial books and essays on childbirth. There is something to that argument as well.

[Anonymous]

Op as she is a CLOSE friend I agree with a PP -- unless you are quite sure your close friend meant these pics to go out to the world. If it's possible it was a mistake, as a close friend you have the connection to just touch base with her!

[Anonymous]

Birth is magical. So is oral sex. That doesn't mean either should be done essentially in public.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing lovely about squeezing a baby out of your hoo hoo.

At least she didn't have 3rd degree tears and loads of bleeding.

still
totally inappropriate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Birth is magical. So is oral sex. That doesn't mean either should be done essentially in public.

Love this! So true!!

Remind me to nominate you for "Best DCUM Comment" next time that thread comes up . . . .

[Anonymous]

I worry that that the new mom will regret this when her senses return.

[Anonymous]

Goodness. I am all about birth magic (DH took pictures of me doing the all fours and the squatting delivery), but not to show every single casual acquaintance! Like PPs said, check to see if it was meant.

[Anonymous]

I kind of hope she meant to show them to the world. Because, can you imagine how mortified you would be if those pictures were unintentionally posted for the world to see???

[Anonymous]

OP here,

I just got off the phone with my friend a bit ago. She had NO IDEA her husband had posted all the pictures. He didn't mean to embarrass her, but simply got confused about what she wanted posted and what she didn't. (He went into the office yesterday for a short bit and unloaded the camera.)

They are down now, and she is mortified. I had a feeling something was amiss, as she is a pretty private person. I had to take a work call, and haven't been able to reach her back yet. I really want to check back in. She sounded pretty freaked out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Birth is magical. So is oral sex. That doesn't mean either should be done essentially in public.

I'm howling!

[Anonymous]

Good for you for calling her.

[Anonymous]

12:15 here. Oh no! I had a suspicion it was the sleep-deprived husband! My DH nearly showed pictures of my delivery to my (very conservative) parents, and I yelled for him to hit the stop button at the last second.
Poor lady. Tell her nobody had time to see the pictures, and to just focus on her lovely baby. I doubt anyone commented on them, anyway. Personally if my friend/acquaintance posted such things, I would not comment.

[Anonymous]

that's what I thought from your original post OP ("She had NO IDEA her husband had posted all the pictures. ") seemed REALLY weird for the mom to post them but husbands are absolutely clueless sometimes and do things the fast way rather than always the right way.