Good idea or Bad Idea?

[Anonymous]

Please be gentle. We lost our only child about 7 months ago. I have 3 nieces and nephews and I'm, I guess naturally, doting on them a bit more now. The youngest is leaving for college in September and I thought I would start knitting a blanket for him in his school colors. Is this too much? I just thought it would be nice for him to have it to wrap up in at the stadium if he goes the games or he could have it on his bed if he wants it, but maybe I'm being silly since it will be homemade.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think guys bring blankets to ball games.

[Anonymous]

I think it is touching. He can fold it on his bed. I am very sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

I'm very sorry for your loss. I don't think you should expect him to take the blanket to games but it might be nice for his room. I gently suggest that you not build up any expectations about his response to the gift or how he may use it. You may be assigning meaning to the blanket that he doesn't. It's also not unusual for kids his age to be a bit oblivious and, if you're looking for a particular reaction, you might not get it. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Boys that age simply do not appreciate knitting, I'm sorry to say. Personally I would love a handmade blanket, but knitting just isn't going to be a good fit for him. I think you need to look into other ways to show love to your family. Pretty much everyone likes a box of cookies in the mail, for example.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please be gentle. We lost our only child about 7 months ago. I have 3 nieces and nephews and I'm, I guess naturally, doting on them a bit more now. The youngest is leaving for college in September and I thought I would start knitting a blanket for him in his school colors. Is this too much? I just thought it would be nice for him to have it to wrap up in at the stadium if he goes the games or he could have it on his bed if he wants it, but maybe I'm being silly since it will be homemade.

I've seen the old jersey or fav t-shirt blankets and those are cool. But having had a boy who went to college, they don't bring much, if any sentimental stuff. Your nieces might like that as a gift more than the nephew.

[Anonymous]

I'm very sorry. Our family also lost a child and the mother makes quilts for everyone. She puts a ton of time and money into them, and they are just not anyone's style. I'm sorry, but a college kid will not bring a knitted blanket to a stadium.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys that age simply do not appreciate knitting, I'm sorry to say. Personally I would love a handmade blanket, but knitting just isn't going to be a good fit for him. I think you need to look into other ways to show love to your family. Pretty much everyone likes a box of cookies in the mail, for example.

I am so sorry for your loss and as the mother of sons whose oldest is a Sr. this is true for him. He wouldn't have any idea it was handmade unless he was told and even then he might not place the same value on it that you or I would. I'm not saying don't make it, but just be aware it might not become an heirloom to him.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for your loss. I agree that a knitted blanket would not be the best gift for a college-bound nephew.
I’d encourage you to reach out to your local Camp Erin (grief camp). My children attended after losing their dad and they treasure the blankets they picked out at camp, made by volunteers. Another thought would be knitting hats for preemies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry for your loss. I agree that a knitted blanket would not be the best gift for a college-bound nephew.
I’d encourage you to reach out to your local Camp Erin (grief camp). My children attended after losing their dad and they treasure the blankets they picked out at camp, made by volunteers. Another thought would be knitting hats for preemies.

I had the same thought. There are several groups that accept homemade items for children going through tough circumstances (medical, foster kids).

I'm sorry for your loss, OP. You obviously have a beautiful heart, I wish you peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please be gentle. We lost our only child about 7 months ago. I have 3 nieces and nephews and I'm, I guess naturally, doting on them a bit more now. The youngest is leaving for college in September and I thought I would start knitting a blanket for him in his school colors. Is this too much? I just thought it would be nice for him to have it to wrap up in at the stadium if he goes the games or he could have it on his bed if he wants it, but maybe I'm being silly since it will be homemade.

I think it's a beautiful idea. He can wrap himself in at a game, or put it around his boy/girlfriend's shoulders, or keep it on his bed, or leave it at home with his parents as a way to mark his territory there.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry for your loss. Both of my boys would really love a hand knitted blanket. You would have to tell them that you made it and they would be really impressed and happy that you took the time to make it.

[Anonymous]

I am the poster who said it was a beautiful idea. Another thing that might be a hit would be a hand knit hat and scarf in the school colors to wear to games.

[Anonymous]

The girls would enjoy a knit blanket. Look for modern and stylish patterns. Look at blankets from target and pottery barn, and design a blanket based on what's popular. Skip the school colors if they're garish. I knit a blanket for my niece when she was in college and she still has it 6 years later.

For your nephew, send an awesome care package of food, candy, Gatorade, gift cards for pizza.

[Anonymous]

Not the right type of gift for an 18 year old male.