dad died

[Anonymous]

even as recently as a month ago I was trying to figure out how to move him to a medicaid facility because he was clearly going to live for another 5-10 years. now, suddenly, he's gone. It's hard to wrap my head around the finality of that. I mean, I've already spent years mourning the loss of the person who was my dad, since dementia steals the people you love from you and leaves a needy stranger in their place.

Anyway. No real point to this post, just that I'm tired and sad. But the world goes on.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for you loss, OP.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry for your loss. The finality is very hard. I lost a loved one with dementia and had a similar experience. It was hard to see her so changed in her last years, and still a shock that she’s gone. Hugs!

[Anonymous]

This is really sad, ugh feel awful for you. My dad also has dementia - but he has commented on seeing others that are really advanced that it is better to pass away before it gets bad. I wonder if your dad avoided really bad years. I hope this isn't insensitive.

So sorry.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry. I hope I am not making things worse. As someone who got have her dad until the bitter end of dementia I can tell you it is an awful, gut-wrenching end filled with suffering and no independence at all. So I hope their is even a tiny bit of solace of knowing he didn't have to face that level of suffering. I will tell you I felt relief that he was finally at a peaceful place.

I will tell you this too, I feel strongly that my dad sends me messages and it brings me tremendous comfort. You may want to read up on that sort of thing. I never thought I'd be someone who thinks she has a relationship with a parent who has passed away, but the messages are pretty strong and it really helps me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:even as recently as a month ago I was trying to figure out how to move him to a medicaid facility because he was clearly going to live for another 5-10 years. now, suddenly, he's gone. It's hard to wrap my head around the finality of that. I mean, I've already spent years mourning the loss of the person who was my dad, since dementia steals the people you love from you and leaves a needy stranger in their place.

Anyway. No real point to this post, just that I'm tired and sad. But the world goes on.

I’m sorry OP. It’s never easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry. I hope I am not making things worse. As someone who got have her dad until the bitter end of dementia I can tell you it is an awful, gut-wrenching end filled with suffering and no independence at all. So I hope their is even a tiny bit of solace of knowing he didn't have to face that level of suffering. I will tell you I felt relief that he was finally at a peaceful place.

I will tell you this too, I feel strongly that my dad sends me messages and it brings me tremendous comfort. You may want to read up on that sort of thing. I never thought I'd be someone who thinks she has a relationship with a parent who has passed away, but the messages are pretty strong and it really helps me.

I'm so sorry for your loss too but honestly, it is better off this way vs. spending years in a facility and no quality of life. After watching my MIL suffer in a Medicaid facility for years, her death was sadly a blessing as she suffered so and couldn't do the basic functions without full assistance. She wouldn't have wanted to live that way.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP. It doesn’t matter how/when we lose them – the finality hits very hard.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry this is so hard. I understand well how “getting ready” for something doesn’t make you “actually ready” when the time comes. I hope you find peace very soon and can cherish memories.

[Anonymous]

My condolences, OP. It's always a shock. Do you have family and friends to support you?

[Anonymous]

I’m very sorry, op. Big hugs.

[Anonymous]

So sorry OP

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Best wishes, OP. When you're ready, I hope you can take some time to take care of yourself as well.