Petty complaint - Asking too many questions s

[Anonymous]

I know this is petty but I have been finding it annoying. My wife asks me dozens if not hundreds of questions a day. Everything from serious work questions and questions about important subjects, to the pettiest questions about what she should snack on or whether she should work out or whether she should call someone. It is a huge part of the way she communicates with me. I feel lately that it is a self centered way of communicating and a little abusive in the sense that she just is constantly imposing questions on. Does anyone deal with this? I know she trusts my judgment but it’s almost like it’s become a repetitive and annoying habit of hers to ask anything and everything no matter how important or petty.

[Anonymous]

Abusive? Are you serious? You are absurd.

[Anonymous]

Annoying maybe, but not abusive. Does she have anxiety?

[Anonymous]

Abusive? Lol. Are you a teenager?
Work on trying not to find it annoying and ask her kindly to not ask so many questions. And cut the drama.

[Anonymous]

People like that annoy the crap out of me—I’d never get to the marriage stage with someone like that. Is she actually waiting for a response, or is she talking out loud to herself? Some people process information by hearing it which I think leads to them talking to themselves a lot. Or she could just be insecure and wants your opinion. Or this is how she bonds with you. No idea, and I’m not sure there’s a way to bring it up without harming the relationship. I do feel for you though—however I doubt this is something she kept hidden during the dating process so the time to weed her out is past.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. Abusive is the wrong word. I meant more like it abuses my time and concentration. Not abusive in a mean way.

[Anonymous]

That sounds incredibly annoying. I'd just ignore the petty questions or just tell her you can't help her with that now.

[Anonymous]

I know several people who talk constantly, kind of like stream of consciousness, whatever is in their brain has to come out their mouth. I find it pretty annoying and I don't even live with these people!

I think if I were you I would not answer the unimportant questions, just act as if you don't hear them, maybe this will eventually extinguish the behavior. Do answer the important questions though! Example: Don't answer "I don't know why there's a different car at the neighbor's house, do you know whose car that is? Do answer: Will you go to the store and pick up some milk and bread?

Also possibly you may want to tell her you are going to do this because you literally can't tolerate answering so many questions everyday. She may not like it but she will get used to it.

[Anonymous]

She's inquisitive. Leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Op, you can impose time when you aren't available. Just like with anyone, even like a toddler. When you have ear pods in, when you are on the computer and concentrating. You have to be consistent and reasonable.

too much togetherness is not good for anyone. Don't discuss, just be more proactive re: you time

[Anonymous]

It could be anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Abusive? No. But make decisions and figure nonsense things out on her own? Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's inquisitive. Leave her alone.

That’s not inquisitive. It’s anxiety and not reading social cues.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been married? Is this new behavior?

[Anonymous]

She is trying to connect with you. Do you guys spend quality time together? Schedule some time for her.

I get like this when I am missing my DH and he is upstairs in his introvert cocoon. I go there and start babbling for a while. 😆