Do you meet the GF/BF's parents?

[Anonymous]

Just to check them out? Exchange numbers? Anything?

[Anonymous]

If it happens, it happens. I don't insist on meeting. But my kids didn't date until junior and senior year of HS. By then they were mature enough to make good choices and ask for help if they were worried, and know red flags.

[Anonymous]

17 DS just started dating a 16 girl. We have offered to meet her parents since she is at our house a lot but no far we haven't. It has been 3 months.

[Anonymous]

My son dated someone from 18-22 and we never met the mom, ran into the dad once.

Not until it's serious... lol 4 years is serious but they broke up so i'm glad I never met the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son dated someone from 18-22 and we never met the mom, ran into the dad once.

Not until it's serious... lol 4 years is serious but they broke up so i'm glad I never met the parents.

That seems different than what the OP is asking. I assume that the Op meant high schoolers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son dated someone from 18-22 and we never met the mom, ran into the dad once.

Not until it's serious... lol 4 years is serious but they broke up so i'm glad I never met the parents.

That seems different than what the OP is asking. I assume that the Op meant high schoolers.

Yes, high school so still home.

There seems to be a consensus that it's not necessary or expected. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Nope, never have. Two girls 18 and 20. No serious boyfriends yet but there have been boyfriends. Have yet to meet any parents. 18 yo is still in HS.

[Anonymous]

I meet/get phone numbers for at least one parent of my kids friends who spend a lot of time at each others houses. So yes I have met and talked to my 15 year olds boyfriends parents, now they were friends first but I don’t think that changes much.

It’s awkward to make the first intro at this age but I’ve worked to get past that and most parents seem relieved that I make that first move.

[Anonymous]

We met because our kids were in theatre together and went to prom etc, but we didn’t orchestrate anything it just happened along the way

[Anonymous]

Adding (pp here who meets parents of friends) I usually do it when picking up my kid from their house. I’ll go to the door and introduce myself. Or I’ll find a convenient excuse to take out the trash or walk the dog if I know they are waiting outside ur front to pick up from my house.

If my kid was 16 plus and driving I don’t think I would be doing this as much, but she’s a freshman

[Anonymous]

My DD has had a boyfriend for a year and a half, since she was 14.5 (very early, I know). The first time her boyfriend invited her to his house, his mom texted me introducing herself and telling me she would be home with them. We texted back and forth the first times they did something together just to be sure there would be adults home. Then one time they were going to a school dance we invited the parents to come in when they came to pick up my dd. Fast forward to now, we have hanged out multiple times, they even invited us one time to their family rural house and we spent the night there. So yes, we have met, lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adding (pp here who meets parents of friends) I usually do it when picking up my kid from their house. I’ll go to the door and introduce myself. Or I’ll find a convenient excuse to take out the trash or walk the dog if I know they are waiting outside ur front to pick up from my house.

If my kid was 16 plus and driving I don’t think I would be doing this as much, but she’s a freshman

+1

I have met the parents of all the relationships my kids have been in, but it’s been a combination of knowing them through an activity, seeing them at a school function, or an opportunity like drop off/pick up. I’m happy to introduce myself or have someone come to my door, but it’s an opportunity I take, not a requirement I have.

I’ve also ended up with a parent phone number for each, but this is often been to share homecoming photos or such. Unless I really get to know the parent I’m not texting them. I just looked at my last text to a bf’s parent, it was months ago and it was actually because the bf had left his phone behind and was texting his own mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD has had a boyfriend for a year and a half, since she was 14.5 (very early, I know). The first time her boyfriend invited her to his house, his mom texted me introducing herself and telling me she would be home with them. We texted back and forth the first times they did something together just to be sure there would be adults home. Then one time they were going to a school dance we invited the parents to come in when they came to pick up my dd. Fast forward to now, we have hanged out multiple times, they even invited us one time to their family rural house and we spent the night there. So yes, we have met, lol

+1. Similar situation w 14 y.o. DS Did this becuse of age.
Have not met any of my 18 y.o. DDs bf parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adding (pp here who meets parents of friends) I usually do it when picking up my kid from their house. I’ll go to the door and introduce myself. Or I’ll find a convenient excuse to take out the trash or walk the dog if I know they are waiting outside ur front to pick up from my house.

If my kid was 16 plus and driving I don’t think I would be doing this as much, but she’s a freshman

+1

I have met the parents of all the relationships my kids have been in, but it’s been a combination of knowing them through an activity, seeing them at a school function, or an opportunity like drop off/pick up. I’m happy to introduce myself or have someone come to my door, but it’s an opportunity I take, not a requirement I have.

I’ve also ended up with a parent phone number for each, but this is often been to share homecoming photos or such. Unless I really get to know the parent I’m not texting them. I just looked at my last text to a bf’s parent, it was months ago and it was actually because the bf had left his phone behind and was texting his own mother.

+1

Ours are both still in HS and I've likewise met the SOs' parents through previous, shared activities. Phone numbers were exchanged mostly for logistics (either as fellow chaperones or as program parents/boosters) and rarely used. I would choose both moms as "friends" if circumstances were different but I'm trying to keep at arms length so when things between our kids go south.....

By college, the answer will be no. Not until there's a ring involved. And that better be awhile.

[Anonymous]

My 18 yo (still in HS) has his first real girlfriend this year. They've been dating for about 4ish months and I just met the mother a week ago. We met because her and her daughter were bringing something over here for my son, so we didn't plan it per se. But we really hit it off. She has invited me over her place for wine and take-out.