Rude kids

[Anonymous]

So all I see today is happy families photos on instagram. Here is what I am dealing with. Teens with bad attitude. Started this morning when apparently the candy was not good and not enough gift cards. Would not pose for a family photo. No help with breakfast and we are ending the day with a less than happy dinner. Luckily In-laws didn’t notice but I am ready to pour a glass of wine and I tend to not drink. Thought I would share in case anyone else has had a bad holiday and yes I discipline but the teen years are rough. Now I get it when I was warned. College soon please.

[Anonymous]

Teens can suck sometimes. But they sound entitled- not "enough" gift cards? Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Lay off the Insta gram

[Anonymous]

Are you laying out consequences? My kids would get an earful if ever they said something like that. And perhaps nothing for the next event. The most I do for Easter is an egg hunt. There are no gifts. We buy chocolate to share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you laying out consequences? My kids would get an earful if ever they said something like that. And perhaps nothing for the next event. The most I do for Easter is an egg hunt. There are no gifts. We buy chocolate to share.

This. My tweens and teens know better than to act like that. And it would definitely result in them getting less or nothing in the future, not more. They'd also get a lecture on gratitude and those less fortunate.

And I also agree to get off social media. The only ones posting are the braggers and they are never going to admit when something didn't go well.

[Anonymous]

Hang in there OP. I had a great holiday, but our last vacation was a $*% show. Trying to grab the moments of fun when we can as mine are nearly out the door now. But, we’ve certainly had our moments. Tine is short. . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you laying out consequences? My kids would get an earful if ever they said something like that. And perhaps nothing for the next event. The most I do for Easter is an egg hunt. There are no gifts. We buy chocolate to share.

If my kids complained about what they got as teens, it would be taken away completely. Not at age 7, but by 13? Yes.

[Anonymous]

No one's posting the bad stuff on Instagram, but everyone goes through it OP, it's not just you.

[Anonymous]

We like to jokingly quote Maui from Moana. "I believe what you are trying to say is 'Thank you'"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you laying out consequences? My kids would get an earful if ever they said something like that. And perhaps nothing for the next event. The most I do for Easter is an egg hunt. There are no gifts. We buy chocolate to share.

Yeah, by the time they’re teenagers, if you hear one spoiled word about “not enough gift cards,” you take every gift card back and use it yourself or save to regift to someone else. Candy isn’t good enough? OK, clearly you don’t want it.

This kind of behavior isn’t acceptable in elementary schoolers, let alone teenagers.

[Anonymous]

All of this, plus if you don’t like it, you must not want it.

But also sometimes when my teen is awful, it’s because something happened like friends dropping them or a breakup. Sometimes your teen seems awful, but they’re also struggling with feeling awful on the inside.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps your teens will feel better if you tell them about my poor unfortunate teen who got zero gift cards.

[Anonymous]

Well, my teen daughter can be a pain and ungrateful at time, but it helps to remember what a rocky adolescence I had. A few years older than her got into a huge but stupid argument with my older ski king who was starting to show signs of mental illness but none of us realized. We were driving on the freeway and it was scary. My dad I think out of fear took his side. I was so upset at the unfair treatment that I locked myself in the bathroom and threatened to swallow pills. I was a straight a student home from bay elite college. Asian kid, no outside misbehavior, but our home was troubled and so was I. I can handle a little petulance but am watching for bigger behavior swerves since I experienced them.

[Anonymous]

Gift cards for Easter? Yikes!

[Anonymous]

Your teens, who probably do not believe in the Easter bunny, are acting entitled about their baskets? You have created this mess. Next year, instead of individual baskets, create a nest using a platter with various candy options that the family will share.