Please wish us luck at tonight's seder

[Anonymous]

There is an elderly relative attending. He's family so we love him. In our family, we're not super formal, but we all have good manners, dress up for special occasions, etc. In our family, toddlers are taught to say "scusi" when they break wind in public.

Last night, at a 2 hour seder, our elderly relative began a musical accompaniment right after the four questions, and just continued tooting all the way through past the afikomen. It was almost like punctuation. The 7 yr old giggled. The 22 yr old giggled. The 3 yr old announced scusi each time he heard it. At one point, someone suggested we all pause for a bathroom break for anyone who needed it. Everyone looked at him. He looked around blankly. The 7 yr old flat out told him "The bathroom off the kitchen is free now, if you want to use it," and he just smiled and said he was fine. And kept on tooting.

It wasn't the food, because he began expelling before we even ate. Plus nobody else was doing this. Please send us your best wishes, both that we get through tonight and that we don't turn into someone who does this. Of all the problems I potentially saw happening at last night's seder (accidentally double-dipping, knocking over a glass of red wine) I never could have imagined dealing with this.

[Anonymous]

You’re Italian?

[Anonymous]

He wasn’t aware?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re Italian?

My husband converted. He's Italian.

[Anonymous]

Grow up and ignore it. And maybe your young relatives will do the same for you when you’re old and letting them rip.

[Anonymous]

Did it smell?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and ignore it. And maybe your young relatives will do the same for you when you’re old and letting them rip.

It was too loud to ignore. It sounded like thunder. For the record, he wasn't the only senior citizen present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is an elderly relative attending. He's family so we love him. In our family, we're not super formal, but we all have good manners, dress up for special occasions, etc. In our family, toddlers are taught to say "scusi" when they break wind in public.

Last night, at a 2 hour seder, our elderly relative began a musical accompaniment right after the four questions, and just continued tooting all the way through past the afikomen. It was almost like punctuation. The 7 yr old giggled. The 22 yr old giggled. The 3 yr old announced scusi each time he heard it. At one point, someone suggested we all pause for a bathroom break for anyone who needed it. Everyone looked at him. He looked around blankly. The 7 yr old flat out told him "The bathroom off the kitchen is free now, if you want to use it," and he just smiled and said he was fine. And kept on tooting.

It wasn't the food, because he began expelling before we even ate. Plus nobody else was doing this. Please send us your best wishes, both that we get through tonight and that we don't turn into someone who does this. Of all the problems I potentially saw happening at last night's seder (accidentally double-dipping, knocking over a glass of red wine) I never could have imagined dealing with this.

So were the kids guests? Because you said the ones in your family have manners, so whose children were laughing at the elderly person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is an elderly relative attending. He's family so we love him. In our family, we're not super formal, but we all have good manners, dress up for special occasions, etc. In our family, toddlers are taught to say "scusi" when they break wind in public.

Last night, at a 2 hour seder, our elderly relative began a musical accompaniment right after the four questions, and just continued tooting all the way through past the afikomen. It was almost like punctuation. The 7 yr old giggled. The 22 yr old giggled. The 3 yr old announced scusi each time he heard it. At one point, someone suggested we all pause for a bathroom break for anyone who needed it. Everyone looked at him. He looked around blankly. The 7 yr old flat out told him "The bathroom off the kitchen is free now, if you want to use it," and he just smiled and said he was fine. And kept on tooting.

It wasn't the food, because he began expelling before we even ate. Plus nobody else was doing this. Please send us your best wishes, both that we get through tonight and that we don't turn into someone who does this. Of all the problems I potentially saw happening at last night's seder (accidentally double-dipping, knocking over a glass of red wine) I never could have imagined dealing with this.

So were the kids guests? Because you said the ones in your family have manners, so whose children were laughing at the elderly person?

+1

[Anonymous]

This happens to elderly people OP. Unless you wanted him to spend all night in the bathroom, there was nothing he could do.

[Anonymous]

Teach your 3-year-old not to comment when someone else passes gas.

[Anonymous]

Lol. Can you get some beano and sneak it into his drink or his food?

I don't think the kids were terrible. I think it would be a miracle for a 3 and 7 year old to completely ignore multiple farts over and over like that. People here need to give them a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teach your 3-year-old not to comment when someone else passes gas.

I think this is adorable actually.

[Anonymous]

I hope you’re never old, OP, or if you are the people around you have more grace and kindness.

[Anonymous]

Oye op. It is not ok and so gross. Guessing he can’t help it but also totally ok that everyone felt super uncomfortable and frankly a little grossed out.
Fil farts a lot and it actually makes me nauseous and so anxious bc it is so so gross. He also burps loudly often. But I think he can help it