SIL is having a baby very soon

[Anonymous]

She is due any day now and I can't stop crying.

I have had 2 recurrent losses, last one 2 weeks ago.

It all just feels so unfair and awful.

[Anonymous]

Sorry about your losses OP. Hoping a few more good cries can put it into perspective that your niece or nephew isn't your lost children.

I am in your shoes - two niblings since my loss.

[Anonymous]

Congrats to your sister, what a blessing! Focus on being a great aunt.

[Anonymous]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm at loss 7 and 6 months since my last loss so just nothingness. The number of people that have passed me by in 2 years since I lost my son is staggering. It feels numb at this point. I encourage you to take the time you need to grieve but don't waste any moments being an Aunt. Sadly you could be like me and this isn't just a temporary thing. So that would be many years lost to the grief.

[Anonymous]

I’m really sorry. I’ve been there and I get it. Sending big hugs.

[Anonymous]

It is so hard. Put on a brave face and cry once you leave. I’m sorry it’s not your turn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your sister, what a blessing! Focus on being a great aunt.

Wrong board for this comment

[Anonymous]

I am very sorry. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your sister, what a blessing! Focus on being a great aunt.

Wrong board for this comment

+1. Seriously, did you get lost? Read the room, please.

[Anonymous]

So sorry OP. After my loss I stopped looking or posting on social media for several months. It's been over two years now and I still barely look or post. Obviously not a solution to your issue (not sure there is one), but it may help to not see the random updates that can come with the birth of a new baby.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m a few years out from my last loss and TTC. It is so so much better than it was a few years ago, but the sting is still there. Sometimes it’s barely anything and fleeting, sometimes the strength of the reaction takes me by surprise. It is ALL normal and it won’t always hurt this badly. Try not to let it hurt your relationships and take the time and space you need to care for yourself.

I find this analogy to be really helpful and accurate to how I’ve experienced infertility grief. Maybe it will help you too. https://psychcentral.com/blog/coping-with-grief-ball-and-box-analogy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your sister, what a blessing! Focus on being a great aunt.

Ignorant.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry OP -- been there, and everybody was getting pregnant when I had back-to-back MCs too. Go out and do something you couldn't do while pregnant (or, if you're trying for your first, something you couldn't do with kids). It will be you sometime soon and you'll miss the freedom!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your sister, what a blessing! Focus on being a great aunt.

Ignorant.

+1

I went through this exact same thing. My SIL easily got pregnant while suffered through IUI, IVF, stress, MCs, etc. I was seeing a therapist at the time, who told me not to go to her baby shower, limit my interaction. My DH explained this to his family so they understood I was not trying to be rude, but I had to preserve my mental health.

Protect yourself, OP. Do what's best for you.