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Anonymous
| I am fairly new to this site and I'm not yet a single mom (but I'm currently TTC) and I've noticed that this board seems dominated by people who are divorced or are dealing with bad relationships of some sort. Just curious if the moderators have considered starting a thread specifically for Single Moms by Choice, who have somewhat different issues, I would think. Nothing against those who are dealing with these issues of divorce, etc., and I am glad that you have a forum to find supportive peers, but I would like to find peers with a more similar situation to my own. Thanks. |
Anonymous
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Try this board: http://www.network54.com/Forum/245234/
It is specifically for single moms by choice although its not based in the DC area. |
Anonymous
| single mothers by choice has a dc based chapter. I belonged several years ago and it was quite active, ~monthly gatherings. I (and many other mothers) drifted away as my children became active in other groups. |
Anonymous
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If you post here, other "single moms by choice" might come out of the woodwork. I think this board stays kind of small because it's limited to just the single mom issues, a lot of which are custody-related. A lot of the other issues we face fit into general parenting or off topic.
i'm not a single mom by choice, other than that when I got pregnant, I chose to move forward with the pregnancy regardless of what my ex wanted to do. He initially walked away. As it turns out, he came back into the picture about halfway through the pregnancy (for the kid only, not for dating), but by then I'd read a lot of books about single motherhood by choice. (Ironically, a couple months before I got pregnant, I'd decided not to pursue egg freezing or IVF, and to remain child-free.) |
Anonymous
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Try this site:
http://singlemothersbychoice.com/ They have lots of yahoo groups for support - ttc, parenting little ones, adoption, etc. They can also send you information about joining the local DC chapter which is very large. |
Anonymous
I noticed that too, and I too was surprised, and actually a little frustrated, at how this part of the board is all about problems with exes. Rather than create a distinct board for one type of single mothers, I would rather ask that there be a dedicated forum to divorce/separation and custody issues, so that this forum can focus on the common issues that come with being a single parent, whether by choice or by separation, divorce, widowing etc... |
Anonymous
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Hey, I'll take this opportunity to lobby again for a blended families forum.
To be fair, the issues involved in custody and exes are what comes up as "post-worthy" for a lot of us that are distinct from other more general parenting topics, and this is where we find the responses that are most helpful and, more importantly, experience based. That said, I'm bummed if anyone feels like they're being somehow silenced on here. |
Anonymous
| As a single mom by adoption, I don't necessarily feel silenced on this particular forum - I just feel it is not relevant to me. It is a divorce forum, not a single mom forum for the most part. I check in maybe once a week, but generally I find more useful stuff on the general parenting forum. |
Anonymous
| Another single adoptive mom here. If there were more of us posting then I might look at this forum more often. |
Anonymous
| Yet another single mom by adoption here. Wish I could think of something for us to talk about...but I'm too exhausted! |