Regular Decision is taking so long - we have moved on

[Anonymous]

Anyone else feel like their child has moved on from any of their RD choices simply because it has taken so long to get a decision? Mine has been researching and visiting all of the schools he was accepted to after EA/Rolling and can see himself fitting in really well at 2 of them specifically. Feels like even if he gets an acceptance it will be so late that he is already over it.

[Anonymous]

Its not a personal insult to make you wait for RD you know, OP try to act like a grown up.

[Anonymous]

Didn't he know when they would publish decisions when he applied?

[Anonymous]

So the whole family has delayed gratification issues? Apart from pregnancy, OP, did you ever have to wait more than 9 months for anything? Maybe try teaching your kid some patience. Eyes on the prize.

[Anonymous]

This is what the early or rolling app colleges are hoping for. Your kid is falling right into their trap.

[Anonymous]

I’m glad we waited because my DD got good merit at one of her RD schools.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I can't imagine being that distracted by shiny baubles and having that short of an attention span. We're an ADHD family, so we know all about short attention spans... but DS is waiting on RD decisions patiently, just like all his friends.

[Anonymous]

That sounds more like an anxiety reaction than a lack of patience reaction--it can be hard for many to have this open-ended decision looming, so one way to relieve anxiety is to commit to the sure thing. I would encourage their happiness with their current options, but know that they may feel different when they get their RD results.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Not because he's not patient, but I think one school has faded from favor over time. Two friends were accepted there ED. At the time I think DS had a slight regret he hadn't considered it for ED and was imagining how fun it would be to go with them and eventually all get an apartment together.

But that was two months ago and I think he's settled into a more mature perspective on the whole thing. There is a reason he didn't apply ED there. But if they had offered him a spot a few weeks ago? Who knows.

[Anonymous]

Over it too.

[Anonymous]

Isn’t the goal to have a list of schools that would all be decent fits? I say good for your family for having that.

Yes, it probably is a bit of a trap/mind game for the EA/Rolling schools vs schools with the more traditional RD schedule.

Waiting is hard and frustrating. It is almost over though and your kid can commit as soon as the last response comes in.

[Anonymous]

I think the EA/rolling decisions lets you realistically explore longer if you could see yourself there. For some RD schools even if you’ve visited you might not want to picture yourself in the dining hall and think which dorm you might live in until you know you are in and the finances work out. If you haven’t had a chance to visit it could be mid April before you get to visit as part of admitted student day an in a short time have to decide. It’s wild when you think 3- 3.5 years of classes ECs etc, 4-6 months of college visits and applications, 3 months of waiting to hear, and then 1 month to evaluate and decide, then a few weeks until AP exams, and then graduation.

[Anonymous]

It’s fabulous to already have two great choices. Maybe RD will be the cherry on top, or maybe you’ll be settled with your EA options. This is a wonderful spot to be in. Congrats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its not a personal insult to make you wait for RD you know, OP try to act like a grown up.

This was a completely unnecessary response. Poster is simply expressing frustration - understandable.

[Anonymous]

I hear what you're saying OP. Our family is exhausted by this process.