He forgot my name ???

[Anonymous]

Met a guy online and we went on a dinner date. After the date, which was fine, he asked for my number and we exchanged them. Today I get a text from him telling me how much he enjoyed our date, only he used the wrong name. Like if my name is Nicole, he called me Hey Betsy!

I mean we just went out last night! It’s awkward. I have no idea how to respond and honestly, I’m a little turned off by this. Honest mistake? Or mix up by big time player?

[Anonymous]

Cringe! He probably meant to send it to his other date. I'm sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Reply back with the wrong name in return. At least have some fun with it.

[Anonymous]

Eek! Before the test did you hope to hear from him again? If so, consider it an honest mistake for now. Once he sorts out who you are, he'll either ghost you or laugh about it and apologize and when he's writing his wedding vows he'll call you Betsy and laugh. People make mistakes - give him a chance to see how he responds when he does.

[Anonymous]

Auto correct?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eek! Before the test did you hope to hear from him again? If so, consider it an honest mistake for now. Once he sorts out who you are, he'll either ghost you or laugh about it and apologize and when he's writing his wedding vows he'll call you Betsy and laugh. People make mistakes - give him a chance to see how he responds when he does.

I was glad to see the text… until I saw the name. Now I’m just weirded out. I have no clue how to respond! If it was a mistake, that’s fine. Weird mistake, but ok. If it wasn’t a “mistake” in identity but sent to the wrong person altogether, or if he didn’t like me enough to remember my actual name, I don’t want him to think it’s something that can be laughed off and then play me, either. I feel stuck and have no clue how to respond.

[Anonymous]

Text back - “hi [his name] - this is [your name]. Is this text meant for me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Text back - “hi [his name] - this is [your name]. Is this text meant for me?

+1

You don’t need to make it complicated. Text this and see how he responds. The burden is on him to explain, and you can go from there.

[Anonymous]

Seems odd, did you text at all before the date? If so, your name would be in his ohone and he presumably would be replying to a text string with your name in it. If not, it's possible he had a typo when entering your name in his phone or he didn't hear it right. Also, if your name isn't in your dating profile and you didn't text prior to the date it's possible he forgot your name from when you said it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text back - “hi [his name] - this is [your name]. Is this text meant for me?

+1

You don’t need to make it complicated. Text this and see how he responds. The burden is on him to explain, and you can go from there.

Why are you stuck? And why do you think you need to respond? It’s important as you navigate dating - especially online stuff - to be aware of what you like / what you want / what feels right and what doesn’t. Is this generally hard for you (asked with compassion, not criticism)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reply back with the wrong name in return. At least have some fun with it.

+1

[Anonymous]

respond "who dis?"

[Anonymous]

Not a good sign (sorry), I would just distance yourself because you would clearly appreciate a person as an individual and deserve the same. Yes, there could be an innocent explanation…but go with your gut—you’re asking us here for validation.

[Anonymous]

That's unimpressive and off putting. You want to give him another chance and maybe have a good story months or years down the road?

Nobody would blame you if you don't want to give him another chance.

Your move.

[Anonymous]

You ladies are tough.

- another absent minded guy