Trans son needs clothing
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Anonymous
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Hello,
My 13 year old trans son would like to get some help shopping for clothing (other than his Dad and me) but is embarrassed/hesitant to ask for help from store employees. He's afraid he'll be judged and rightly so, I'm sure. Does anyone know of a personal shopping type service or individual that is super LGBTQIA+ friendly? Maybe stores don't really do this any longer but Nordstrom used to have a free personal shopping service. Thanks for any help or advice you can give! |
Anonymous
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What kind of clothes, OP?
I can't think of the kind of store my teens would shop at that would have a personal shopping service ... Or even helpful salespeople 
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Anonymous
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What does he need help with? Sizing? I would really not rope the salespeople into this, and just accompany him myself. It's been years since any of us (two parents, teen boy, tween girl) stepped into a store. We shop online and figure it out. I think your son should learn to do the same. |
Anonymous
| What does he need help with? |
Anonymous
| Shop online… that’s what most teens do |
Anonymous
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When my nephew came out as trans, his older male cousins (who happened to be my kids) took him to the barber, and to the barber.
Do you know a nice older teenage boy you could ask to do this? Maybe pay for it as a service? |
Anonymous
That's a great idea, thank you. |
Anonymous
We've done A LOT of online shopping and usually have to send things back. It is navigating his chest while trying to minimize the hips a bit etc. |
Anonymous
Not really trying to "rope" anyone into anything. Simply wondered if anyone knew of someone who might specialize (or at least has experience) in helping a trans kid feel less gender dysphoric when trying on clothes. Trust me, my son knows how to shop online, I'm just tired of sending stuff back! |
Anonymous
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A lot of kids are really into thrift stores. Does he have a friend who would go thrifting with him?
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Anonymous
| I really looked for something similar with my trans daughter when she came out. Our body shapes were so different and shopping ended up being really stressful. I wasn’t used to shopping for a daughter! But I couldn’t find anything. If she’d been open to support groups, she probably would have found teenagers there who would have helped. But she wasn’t. So, I ended up buying a lot of things online or returning a lot of stuff. Now, it’s been a while, and I have a better sense of what she likes, and she finally seems more comfortable being out and shopping. |
Anonymous
| Just putting it out there that I'm a pretty androgynous/masc presenting lesbian and I have a lot of luck shopping in the men's section at Marshall's and TJ Maxx. From casual to more dressy - I like it. |
Anonymous
| Is he friendly with other trans boys at his school? He’s what - in seventh grade? Is there an eight grade trans boy he would feel comfortable asking for clothing advice? |
Anonymous
| I wish I could find a source for more feminine looking clothes but made for a man's body. Women's clothes have lots of flaws that men's clothes don't, such as the sleeves on tops being way too short and no pockets or shallow pockets in pants. I want pretty colors, flowery patterns, etc but that fits a man's body. There are some in men's departments but not a huge selection. |
Anonymous
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There are clothing stores online that specialize in more masculine items that fit female-born bodies.
You might look at Wild Fang or TomboyX (disclaimer -- I've never bought from either, just seen ads; can't speak to quality or price). |