Anyone retaliate for Father's Day?

[Anonymous]

I am curious, after the yearly posts about how one's husband completely flunked mother's day, to know how many of you retaliated on father's day. How may rose above their disappointing mother's day and tried to make father's day nice?

[Anonymous]

Good question, OP. There is no disappointment in our household because I get something nice for DH for FD and orchestrate a celebration, purchase, and wrap a gift for myself on MD. All DH has to do is hand it to DD and tell her to go surprise Mother. Ahhh....Perfection.

[Anonymous]

Good question, and yes I did! He got cards from the kids that I bought, which is what happened on Mother's Day. I think his day was pretty beat.

[Anonymous]

Actually, I feel bad that his Father's Day was not as special as Mother's Day! On that note, what he really wanted to do was hang out with the baby and watch the World Cup which he did. Since the games start so early, I was the one that actually slept in, not him! I did get him a few little gifts one of which he really liked (I had pictures taken of DD in a t-shirt from his college). In fact, I just noticed that the frame is gone so he must have taken it to work this morning!

[Anonymous]

If you are playing tit for tat then I suggest you guys get some help

[Anonymous]

I kinda wanted to, but didn't. I got a card (from him, not DD) a week late. I put her in an adorable I love Dad t-shirt and got him a card, from her. I felt like it was her day with him, not mine. If he messed up by b-day, then yeah, I would be more likely to retaliate.

[Anonymous]

you're talking like fathers really care about father's day... LOL

[Anonymous]

I felt like it was her day with him, not mine. If he messed up by b-day, then yeah, I would be more likely to retaliate.

I totally agree. I'm supposed to be setting a good example here for DS so that's what I did (special breakfast, encouraged homemade cards, presents made by DS at my urging).

My instincts were otherwise, believe me, but I tried to take the high road for DS's sake. I do feel free to torpedo his birthday because he's f#&@d mine for so many years.

[Anonymous]

DH here, if you didn't remind him it was fathers day, he'd probably forget/not care anyway. Retaliation is a waste of time, in addition to saying more about you than about him.

[Anonymous]

All I expect for Mother's Day is a card and appreciation. I do more for Father's day, but he's a good husband and father and I don't expect him to get me a cake or make me a meal for celebrations. He is willing to take me out to celebrate if i can get a sitter though. Now a friend of mine had a husband who was Mr. thoughtful always bringing flowers for special occasions and even throwing parties..he also was a lousy husband..so I'd rather have a guy like my DH.

[Anonymous]

I made it nice, but didn't get him a gift.

[Anonymous]

We let him pick the activity for the day, which is how we wound up golfing in 94 degree weather.

[Anonymous]

Retaliation doesn't work unless its in a context that the person would mind. If You DH ignored mother's day and your solution is to retaliate by not doing alot on Father's Day chances are he will be happy. If you want to get back at him, invite your mother or his (whomever annoys him more) over on the SuperBowl day to spend time with him and accidentally cut off the cable.