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Having a hard time acclimating after moving to new house (yesterday!)
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Anonymous
| We just moved into our first house after living in apartments for years and years. I absolutely LOVE our new house and I love our neighborhood, too--but for some reason both last night and tonight I started thinking about the apartment we just moved out of (we lived there since out oldest was born over five years ago) and missing it terribly and feeling so sad. I've been pretty tearful and can only compare it to the feeling I had just after my son was born...the "baby blues". I just don't feel like this is my home yet. This never happened to me with prior moves. Anyone else go through this? How long did it take to acclimate to the new house? Is my anxiety/sadness normal?? |
Anonymous
| Yes, it's totally normal. Don't try to push the feelings back. Just give it some time... yeesh, you only moved yesterday! |
Anonymous
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It isn't your home yet. Once you unpack and start making little changes - a blue rug for that corner, for example, or here is where little Jimmy's backpack will hang - then it will be yours.
I think your feelings are very understandable and common. We actually did not buy a much bigger house this year that part of me really wanted, in part because I couldn't imagine leaving the house where I brought my babies home. That didn't hit me until we were just about to make the offer. Hang in there, OP. And congrats on the new house! |
Anonymous
| Totally normal, esp. given this is your first house and the permanence associated with that. you need time to make it your own. I still get wistful when I walk around my old neighborhood, but the sadness went away after I had fully unpacked and settled in for a few weeks. |
Anonymous
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Yes, this is normal. I went through a really weird time when we moved 5 years ago. We bought our first home (we did not have kids yet) after living in DC apartments through our 20s. It was/is perfect, and I was happy, but for the first few weeks, I got such a strange, constant feeling of nostalgia and was feeling very sentimental about my childhood. I remember just wanting to be with my parents a lot. I think because moving is such a big change, it can trigger some intense emotions. Even if you are moving in the same city, etc.
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Anonymous
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Totally normal and it's a big change. Take some time to buy a pretty plant or flowers to cheer up the space amidst the boxes, take time to set up your master bedroom so it's comfortable and how you like it etc. etc. It takes time but you will settle in. Go easy on yourself with meals, sandwiches or things that are easy will decrease your stress level. It's so hot out but try to meet a neighbor or two as well, that will help.
Best wishes in your new home. This feeling will pass. |
Anonymous
OP here...this is happening to me too! Wow. Thanks so much PP's, for the perspective and support. |
Anonymous
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OP, totally normal as other pp's have said. To help you over the hump right away, try:
-- get your camera and take a couple of pics of your kids in front of their new house/in their new room, etc. Stick in a frame and hang them today. -- have your child draw some pics and put them on the fridge. -- do something fun and special together as a family in your home today to make a memory. Maybe dinner with your family's favorite meal (i.e. if there's something special you usually have on birthdays. For us, it's my mom's lasagna recipe). Have a cake with candles. Take pictures. -- find a doorway and mark your child's height. The first of many future measurings! -- Have "welcome to the new home" sex with DH tonight. Make it special. You'll feel at home soon! |