Spouse does his/her hobby on weekend

[Anonymous]

My DH plays sports with others for a few hours every Sunday morning. I take the kids out of house to play in the morning and go to classes, and we are not home till 5pm. He can play sports and have lunch with them if they want. Dh wants to invite his buddy to join them, but it seems like the wife does not let him out. His friend may come out a few time to join them to play. They have a child together, same age as my youngest one.

I tell DH that he should be thankful that I let him to do his hobby that and I solely take care of kids for the day, lol. It is sometimes tough, but I can manage to take care of 3 kids at the same time. Do you let your spouse out of house to do his/her hobby?

[Anonymous]

I think it is really nice of you. My DH & I have both have hobbies we like to do, but it is just 2-3 hrs at a time - & it is awesome! I really appreciate those couple of hrs each week, & I think we both have better attitudes about everything when we get a break. Good job!

[Anonymous]

Comes down to leisure time over whole week. Like if you are a SAHM with school age kids, where he is working all week, it seems fair for him to snare some leisure time.

[jsmith123]

My husband and I both have hobbies that we've continued despite having kids. We don't "let" each other have hobbies though, because that implies that we have to ask for permission, and we don't have that type of relationship. That dynamic wouldn't work for me.

[Anonymous]

Does your husband ever "let" you do your hobby for a whole day?

[Anonymous]

My Dh loves to hike and he can do it whenever he wants to but he usually does it when we are gone as he likes being with us when he can.

[Anonymous]

Sunday morning is church for my family and most of the friends we know. Personally Sunday is a weird day to plan a regular activity because it’s just a family day and always has been, culturally speaking. Saturday, sure.

[Anonymous]

The use of "let" here is .... telling.

Yes, we both do hobbies on the weekends.

[Anonymous]

EVERY Sunday you take the kids out of the house until 5 PM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sunday morning is church for my family and most of the friends we know. Personally Sunday is a weird day to plan a regular activity because it’s just a family day and always has been, culturally speaking. Saturday, sure.

Really, most of the families you know go to Church? Where in the DC area?

OP all that matters is balance. Some families prioritize togetherness on the weekends, some parents like to switch off to maximize alone time. All that matters is you’re communicating openly and sharing responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sunday morning is church for my family and most of the friends we know. Personally Sunday is a weird day to plan a regular activity because it’s just a family day and always has been, culturally speaking. Saturday, sure.

Really, most of the families you know go to Church? Where in the DC area?

OP all that matters is balance. Some families prioritize togetherness on the weekends, some parents like to switch off to maximize alone time. All that matters is you’re communicating openly and sharing responsibility.

This isn't mutually exclusive, either. A round of golf takes 4 hours. A nice run takes 1 hour. There are 32 waking hours in a weekend, assuming you get 8 hours of sleep.

[Anonymous]

I would love for my spouse to have an all day hoppy on Sundays. I find it easier to parent when it’s just me.

[Anonymous]

Why are you comparing yourself to your DH’s friends relationship. And telling your DH he should feel lucky you allow him to have some time for his own hobbies? This post doesn’t really seem to be about whether spouses “allow” each other some free time but more of an insinuation that you’re somehow a better person or have a better relationship due to how you handle the issue. Get off your high horse, OP. But yes, people in healthy relationships respect their partners desire to engage in activities outside the home, without the family.

[Anonymous]

I think it is great that for spouses to prioritize exercise time for each other. I am not so sure that event needs to include mimosas and brunch each week.

[Anonymous]

DH and I are very independent, do many activities that we individually enjoy but we ultimately work as a team and put our kids (generally) first. As your children grow older it is likely that they will have more going on and I don't know how you'll manage 3 sets of activities (plus your own sanity) every single Sunday. Hopefully he is flexible with this.