What are age appropriate behaviors for 13 YO boy?

[Anonymous]

Recently, the school provided a report with a box checked indicating that all teachers feel our 13 year old son does not demonstrate age appropriate behaviors. No detail was provided and I have asked for more info. But, my head is spinning until they answer my questions. How would you define age appropriate behavior for a 7th grade, 13 year old boy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently, the school provided a report with a box checked indicating that all teachers feel our 13 year old son does not demonstrate age appropriate behaviors. No detail was provided and I have asked for more info. But, my head is spinning until they answer my questions. How would you define age appropriate behavior for a 7th grade, 13 year old boy?

Ask the school what is happening

[Anonymous]

This is almost impossible without knowing your son. If I had to guess though, I would imagine a kid who is distracted, interrupting, making immature jokes or doing immature things (physically pestering kids or disrupting class with ‘silliness’) to get attention in a way that doesn’t resonate with peers, makes it hard for rest of class to focus.

For my nephew, who is on the spectrum, it was saying inappropriate or ‘weird’ (to other kids) things - just really not reading social cues are able to engage with peers in a typical way.

Typical behaviors at this age? Sitting and listening to teacher, knowing when it’s okay to mess around with friends and when it’s not,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently, the school provided a report with a box checked indicating that all teachers feel our 13 year old son does not demonstrate age appropriate behaviors. No detail was provided and I have asked for more info. But, my head is spinning until they answer my questions. How would you define age appropriate behavior for a 7th grade, 13 year old boy?

What is your boy telling you about this?

[Anonymous]

Our son, diagnosed woth ADHS in 7th grade, was not sitting still in class and listening to teachers. Medication made a world of difference in every aspect of his life.

But there's no way to answer your question about your child until you hear back from the school.

[Anonymous]

With no description of the behaviors? And this is the first you are hearing of it? I really hope they did not give you something so vague and unhelpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our son, diagnosed woth ADHS in 7th grade, was not sitting still in class and listening to teachers. Medication made a world of difference in every aspect of his life.

But there's no way to answer your question about your child until you hear back from the school.

Zero side-effects? Which drug and dose? How long of experimentation did it take to find the correct drug and dose?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With no description of the behaviors? And this is the first you are hearing of it? I really hope they did not give you something so vague and unhelpful.

Yep. I asked for more info but nothing yet. We have never been told this before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With no description of the behaviors? And this is the first you are hearing of it? I really hope they did not give you something so vague and unhelpful.

Yep. I asked for more info but nothing yet. We have never been told this before.

This makes zero sense.

Time to march into school and talk to the principal. Why are you waiting?

Kind of hard to fix something that you have no idea what is wrong.

OP either you are missing something big or your school stinks.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, at 13, I’d say age appropriate behavior would be being able to explain to you exactly why the teachers think he doesn’t display age appropriate behavior.

Being totally clueless or uncooperative about this would not be typical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With no description of the behaviors? And this is the first you are hearing of it? I really hope they did not give you something so vague and unhelpful.

Yep. I asked for more info but nothing yet. We have never been told this before.

This makes zero sense.

Time to march into school and talk to the principal. Why are you waiting?

Kind of hard to fix something that you have no idea what is wrong.

OP either you are missing something big or your school stinks.

March into school and take to the principal? Dramatic much? It sounds like OP reached out to those who completed the form. Give them a few days to respond. Then email again and give it a day or 2. Then on 3rd attempt I might email with 3rd attempt and CC principal. It is not age appropriate behavior to match in and expect a principal to meet with you on demand. It's entitled and rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With no description of the behaviors? And this is the first you are hearing of it? I really hope they did not give you something so vague and unhelpful.

Yep. I asked for more info but nothing yet. We have never been told this before.

This makes zero sense.

Time to march into school and talk to the principal. Why are you waiting?

Kind of hard to fix something that you have no idea what is wrong.

OP either you are missing something big or your school stinks.

- and now we all see where inappropriate behaviors originate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With no description of the behaviors? And this is the first you are hearing of it? I really hope they did not give you something so vague and unhelpful.

Yep. I asked for more info but nothing yet. We have never been told this before.

This makes zero sense.

Time to march into school and talk to the principal. Why are you waiting?

Kind of hard to fix something that you have no idea what is wrong.

OP either you are missing something big or your school stinks.

- and now we all see where inappropriate behaviors originate.

This.

[Anonymous]

Immaturity. Excessive horseplay. Repetitive, intentional annoyance of classmates. Whining.

[Anonymous]

I find it kind of odd you, as people who live with him, would have no clue what they might be talking about. Did you ask him? They know what they’re doing.