Sending sick kid to friend’s house

[Anonymous]

We made plans with another family for my child’s friend to come over today for a play date. Kids are in the same class. Kid is nonstop coughing at my house, the phlegmy kind. I don’t know if I have the right to be upset. I wish mom would have given me a heads up. She confirmed with me yesterday and this morning. She could have mentioned that her child is sick.

[Anonymous]

Was the child in school?

[Anonymous]

Do you know that the cough is new? Sometimes kids cough for weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know that the cough is new? Sometimes kids cough for weeks.

This. My asthmatic kid gets awful lingering coughs from any cold. That being said, I’m always upfront with parents about it before a playdate.

[Anonymous]

Allergies are early this year

[Anonymous]

zomg, a cough! Your poor Larlo!

[Anonymous]

There is a cough going around our school (and our house) that is exactly as you describe and everyone is coughing for 2-3 weeks with it. And honestly if the kid is in your kid's class, they've already shared those germs.

But, if the kid was clearly not feeling well- tired, grumpy, saying their throat was sore etc- I'd have called the mom and said their kid was sick

[Anonymous]

If your kid is in school, he's being coughed on all day anyway.

--elementary school teacher

[Anonymous]

Yes the parent should’ve warned you or at least explained and let you decide if you were comfortable having them in the house.

[Anonymous]

I would be very annoyed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a cough going around our school (and our house) that is exactly as you describe and everyone is coughing for 2-3 weeks with it. And honestly if the kid is in your kid's class, they've already shared those germs.

But, if the kid was clearly not feeling well- tired, grumpy, saying their throat was sore etc- I'd have called the mom and said their kid was sick

Oh no. That’s what my ds has. I just kept him home today for it. I hope he won’t be this hacky for weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a cough going around our school (and our house) that is exactly as you describe and everyone is coughing for 2-3 weeks with it. And honestly if the kid is in your kid's class, they've already shared those germs.

But, if the kid was clearly not feeling well- tired, grumpy, saying their throat was sore etc- I'd have called the mom and said their kid was sick

Yup. We’re on our third week of coughing. He fine until he gets excited or runs around and then that triggers a bout of hard hacking cough.

[jsmith123]

I have just acknowledged that I have some anxiety about illnesses that other parents don't seem to have. I don't think they're really being inconsiderate so much as it would baffle them why I didn't want their child with a runny nose and nasty cough in my house if I'm sending my kid to school.

I personally just send a quick heads up about this type of thing so the parent has a chance to opt out, but I do that based on my own anxieties, and have stopped expecting other people to do the same.

[Anonymous]

jsmith123 wrote:I have just acknowledged that I have some anxiety about illnesses that other parents don't seem to have. I don't think they're really being inconsiderate so much as it would baffle them why I didn't want their child with a runny nose and nasty cough in my house if I'm sending my kid to school.

I personally just send a quick heads up about this type of thing so the parent has a chance to opt out, but I do that based on my own anxieties, and have stopped expecting other people to do the same.

Well you’re right, because that child with cold symptoms is already sitting next to your child for an hour during math workshop where they are sharing manipulatives and in each others faces. So, while I am not a fan of having a cold, I don’t see the added harm of having that same child in our house for an hour after they’ve been with my child in school for the 7 hours prior.

[Anonymous]

OP, don't waste time on ruminating on whether you should or should not be judging. Pick up the phone and tell her to come get her child. No judgement. Just act.