Am I the only parent that grounds my kid?

[Anonymous]

My DD keeps telling me that I’m the only one to take her phone away ground her when she gets in trouble…:. She got her phone taken away for almost a week when she was caught vaping in class, skipping or getting written up for Misbehaving… why aren’t other parents disciplining their kids when they act up?

[Anonymous]

Why would you take her phone away for vaping in class? That doesn't make sense. What does the phone have to do with the infraction?

But, no, you're not the only one who grounds their kids. But usually I align the consequence with the infraction. Taking a phone away for something not phone related doesn't make sense.

[Anonymous]

Many of us discipline our kids when they are out of line, but it doesn't always work. Some kids are more difficult than others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you take her phone away for vaping in class? That doesn't make sense. What does the phone have to do with the infraction?

But, no, you're not the only one who grounds their kids. But usually I align the consequence with the infraction. Taking a phone away for something not phone related doesn't make sense.

Disagree. Taking away the phone and electronics ALWAYS makes sense!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you take her phone away for vaping in class? That doesn't make sense. What does the phone have to do with the infraction?

But, no, you're not the only one who grounds their kids. But usually I align the consequence with the infraction. Taking a phone away for something not phone related doesn't make sense.

What would you do as punishment for vaping at school?

[Anonymous]

Not OP, NP with question-
PP about aligning the consequence with the infraction, what would you consider a consequence for vaping in class? Genuinely curious.

OP- I would have taken the phone away too. It's a privilege in my opinion and misbehaving in school, skipping school, vaping are things that I would ground my kids for too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD keeps telling me that I’m the only one to take her phone away ground her when she gets in trouble…:. She got her phone taken away for almost a week when she was caught vaping in class, skipping or getting written up for Misbehaving… why aren’t other parents disciplining their kids when they act up?

My kids have never been caught vaping and they don't skip school but I still ground them for other things. Breaking curfew, not doing their chores (after hundreds of reminders), being disrespectful, poor grades at school, etc.

and yes, I take away the phone because that seems to be the only thing they care for.

[Anonymous]

OP, how do you know that other kids aren't receiving consequences? Have you asked the parents?

If my kid was caught vaping in class, there would be a lot more consequence than taking the phone away.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t you post this before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you take her phone away for vaping in class? That doesn't make sense. What does the phone have to do with the infraction?

But, no, you're not the only one who grounds their kids. But usually I align the consequence with the infraction. Taking a phone away for something not phone related doesn't make sense.

What would you do as punishment for vaping at school?

Not OP, but their backpack and room would be subject to random searches and drug tests. I would prevent them from going out unsupervised with friends for X amount of time, like a month or more. I likely would not take the phone, since I’ve found aligning things to what they did seems to work better.

[Anonymous]

*meant not PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know that other kids aren't receiving consequences? Have you asked the parents?

If my kid was caught vaping in class, there would be a lot more consequence than taking the phone away.

+1
Skipping and vaping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you take her phone away for vaping in class? That doesn't make sense. What does the phone have to do with the infraction?

But, no, you're not the only one who grounds their kids. But usually I align the consequence with the infraction. Taking a phone away for something not phone related doesn't make sense.

Disagree. Taking away the phone and electronics ALWAYS makes sense!

+1 I paid for the phone and I pay for the plan that keeps it operational. It's a privilege to have one, especially if you are too young to drive. If you aren't meeting your responsibilities, that I'm going to restrict or remove your access to that privilege.

[Anonymous]

NP. Since my kids don't really go out or go anywhere, they don't get "grounded" and told they need to stay home. But yes, they get phone/tablet taken away as "consequence" or punishment.

As for the poster who doesn't understand taking the phone away, I don't understand them. And from the responses on this thread, I'm not alone.

[Anonymous]

First of all, kids always say no one else is...fill in the blank. One, they lie. Two, who cares.

For vaping I would make sure I cut off any money supply and that the kid was home or with me when not in school. I would also do random searches of room and backpack and drug test randomly.