Something nice about your SN kid

[Anonymous]

Even as we parents struggle sometimes with our special needs kids, I noticed something positive today that was distinct to my son's ADHD, and thought I'd start a thread of positives. We tried to go to Urgent Care for something not totally urgent and were told that we'd need to wait 90 minutes to see the doctor--even though we'd had an appointment. This was *after* waiting 30 minutes to see the assistant. I don't know what it was, but my son was completely unbothered and we went on our way, joking about how we could take his blood pressure using a toy doctor's kid. He's not worried about when or where we'll take care of the medical issue--he was just ready for dinner. My daughter, very high executive function, would have been bummed about the wasted time and worried. I guess because my son is a little spacey and absorbed in the moment just did not care at all. If that's ADHD, I can see why many kids with ADHD have a lot of friends. Some of them can roll with the punches.

I apologize if this makes someone want to punch *me*--I know that ADHD can come in a zillion different formations and for many kids with ADHD, that would not be the outcome. But we're new to my son's diagnosis and trying to understand the positives as well as the things that seem big to work on.

https://www.facebook.com/SusanBartonDyslexia/photos/see-the-positive-side-of-adhdthank-you-dani-donovan-for-this-graphic/2848912678476810/

[Anonymous]

OP, trying that link again.....

[Anonymous]

Sigh. Well, anyway, imagine a nice list of positive adjectives that describe kids with ADHD.

[Anonymous]

My kid has adhd and according to his evaluation also asd (the second has been trickier to definitively see). Either way - something about whatever is going on with him make him really strong at theoretical perspective taking. Not in the moment when he’s arguing with his brother and telling him he’s ‘better’ at whatever, not in the moment when arguing with us about like - iPad time. But any time impulse control issues get out of his way - he will take any situation and understand what makes people tick and give them the benefit of the doubt - beyond any adult I know

[Anonymous]

My DD with special needs has the kindest heart. She is a lovely person and so empathetic. Anyone would be lucky to call her a friend.

[Anonymous]

My autistic probably adhd ks has oversized emotions, which is of course challenging, but when he’s happy he is SO happy and it’s very contagious. He just lights up like a star, and I love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My autistic probably adhd ks has oversized emotions, which is of course challenging, but when he’s happy he is SO happy and it’s very contagious. He just lights up like a star, and I love it.

NP. DS is like this, with ADHD and ASD. He lives life turned up to 11. When he is down, he is really really down. And when he is happy or excited, he is the happiest person in the world. SO HAPPY! SO EXCITED!

[Anonymous]

6 yo DD doesn't have an official diagnosis yet and is still awaiting a full neuropsych. High anxiety with explosive behavior. She can spend hours on creative tasks and is so joyfully focused on her art. I keep a drawing on my desk that shows us all hugging, eyes scrunched closed, and says "When you are with me I feel hapy."

[Anonymous]

My 16 year old with dyslexia and other learning issues is so profoundly down about everything academic. But he is the funniest, kindest young man. People just want to be around him. The other day I joked that I was pudgy - which I am - and he gently said “mom, don’t talk about yourself that way. It’s unkind. Be kind to yourself.” The world needs more men like him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old with dyslexia and other learning issues is so profoundly down about everything academic. But he is the funniest, kindest young man. People just want to be around him. The other day I joked that I was pudgy - which I am - and he gently said “mom, don’t talk about yourself that way. It’s unkind. Be kind to yourself.” The world needs more men like him.

Love this thread! And the last comments brings tears to my eyes!

[Anonymous]

I have a kid with ADHD/dyslexia/slow processing/dysgraphia who after really struggling in middle school has found his groove in HS and is taking all honors/AP courses and has a 4.0(w)/3.7 (uw) GPA, in the National Honor Society, has held a summer job for 2y, participates in a varsity sport, and a club sport, and a nice social life. He is super outgoing, is the 'hype man' for his sport, and is excited for college.

I wasn't sure we were going to get here when he was in middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid with ADHD/dyslexia/slow processing/dysgraphia who after really struggling in middle school has found his groove in HS and is taking all honors/AP courses and has a 4.0(w)/3.7 (uw) GPA, in the National Honor Society, has held a summer job for 2y, participates in a varsity sport, and a club sport, and a nice social life. He is super outgoing, is the 'hype man' for his sport, and is excited for college.

I wasn't sure we were going to get here when he was in middle school.

That’s amazing, congratulations!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old with dyslexia and other learning issues is so profoundly down about everything academic. But he is the funniest, kindest young man. People just want to be around him. The other day I joked that I was pudgy - which I am - and he gently said “mom, don’t talk about yourself that way. It’s unkind. Be kind to yourself.” The world needs more men like him.

❤️

[Anonymous]

I love this thread.

[Anonymous]

Me too.