College application

[Anonymous]

Should my child add to their application that they are LGBTQIA? Any need to specify who they are?

[Anonymous]

There isn’t a specific line too answer that. Instead it might be something that becomes part of an essay.

[Anonymous]

If it’s a meaningful part of their identity, yes it adds to diversity. But you don’t just put “I’m gay.” You write your essay about it. You highlight your involvement in the GSA or doing LGBTQ advocacy, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a meaningful part of their identity, yes it adds to diversity. But you don’t just put “I’m gay.” You write your essay about it. You highlight your involvement in the GSA or doing LGBTQ advocacy, etc

But there’s nothing particularly remarkable about being gay so you really have to make it individualistic and not a trope. They have read a million coming out stories.

[Anonymous]

A handful (maybe 1/3) of the applications my son filled out asked if he identified as part of the community but didn't specifically ask how. One asked for his preferred pronouns. He just clicked yes and went on with the rest of the application.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a meaningful part of their identity, yes it adds to diversity. But you don’t just put “I’m gay.” You write your essay about it. You highlight your involvement in the GSA or doing LGBTQ advocacy, etc

But there’s nothing particularly remarkable about being gay so you really have to make it individualistic and not a trope. They have read a million coming out stories.

I don't want the child to discuss their sexual orientation, period. But if this is a criteria in the college admission, I don't see why not to disclose it. My question I guess how do we find out if particular college give any weight to this criteria. Like, some colleges lists if they give some weight to legacy, or demonstrated interest, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a meaningful part of their identity, yes it adds to diversity. But you don’t just put “I’m gay.” You write your essay about it. You highlight your involvement in the GSA or doing LGBTQ advocacy, etc

But there’s nothing particularly remarkable about being gay so you really have to make it individualistic and not a trope. They have read a million coming out stories.

I don't want the child to discuss their sexual orientation, period. But if this is a criteria in the college admission, I don't see why not to disclose it. My question I guess how do we find out if particular college give any weight to this criteria. Like, some colleges lists if they give some weight to legacy, or demonstrated interest, etc.

Are you serious? Where did you get that idea that gay students get a leg up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a meaningful part of their identity, yes it adds to diversity. But you don’t just put “I’m gay.” You write your essay about it. You highlight your involvement in the GSA or doing LGBTQ advocacy, etc

But there’s nothing particularly remarkable about being gay so you really have to make it individualistic and not a trope. They have read a million coming out stories.

I don't want the child to discuss their sexual orientation, period. But if this is a criteria in the college admission, I don't see why not to disclose it. My question I guess how do we find out if particular college give any weight to this criteria. Like, some colleges lists if they give some weight to legacy, or demonstrated interest, etc.

Are you serious? Where did you get that idea that gay students get a leg up?

Who gets a leg up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a meaningful part of their identity, yes it adds to diversity. But you don’t just put “I’m gay.” You write your essay about it. You highlight your involvement in the GSA or doing LGBTQ advocacy, etc

But there’s nothing particularly remarkable about being gay so you really have to make it individualistic and not a trope. They have read a million coming out stories.

I don't want the child to discuss their sexual orientation, period. But if this is a criteria in the college admission, I don't see why not to disclose it. My question I guess how do we find out if particular college give any weight to this criteria. Like, some colleges lists if they give some weight to legacy, or demonstrated interest, etc.

Are you serious? Where did you get that idea that gay students get a leg up?

If you go on the college forum, some parents associate being LGBTQ as a “hook.” Right up there with legacy, URM, first Gen. I wish I were kidding, but I’m not.

[Anonymous]

Why not just leave this to the kid? If they want to discuss it in an essay or check a box, they can. If they don’t, they won’t.

Stop getting wrapped up in the “hook”/gaming discourse on here; the people who are most confident they have the answers know the least.

Let your kid decide whether/how to represent their gender/sexual identity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A handful (maybe 1/3) of the applications my son filled out asked if he identified as part of the community but didn't specifically ask how. One asked for his preferred pronouns. He just clicked yes and went on with the rest of the application.

This is what I do on job applications. I seriously doubt it makes a particle of difference on an individual application; organizations just want stats.