How late is too late to wake up when vacationing with other fams

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Opinion?

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8 AM

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Lots of factors at play here

1. Are there kids involved? So other families would have to watch sleeping parents ' kids?
2. Is there an expectation that you all have breakfast together or something?
3. Are they waiting on you to do something? Like youre supposed to be going to the beach but they won't go until you're up and ready.

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You should be awake with your earliest-rising child. I went on vacation with a couple that lounged in bed two hours after their daughter arose, and I was expected to mind her while they slept. It was distinctly annoying and I declined further invitations to travel with them.

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No time.

That said, no one is keeping really young kids quiet past about 8am. If they’re older maybe 9am.

No one is waiting for you to go out and do things. Which is also fine.

We have vacationed with a sleeper family before and it was fine. Our family had good quality time in the morning just us.

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Anonymous wrote:You should be awake with your earliest-rising child. I went on vacation with a couple that lounged in bed two hours after their daughter arose, and I was expected to mind her while they slept. It was distinctly annoying and I declined further invitations to travel with them.

Just posted but yes this.

It is shocking that people will do this. Buy a clue.

[Anonymous]

8 am. Any later and the day is wasted. I hate waiting around for my fellow vacationers to roll out of bed by 11.

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Anonymous wrote:You should be awake with your earliest-rising child. I went on vacation with a couple that lounged in bed two hours after their daughter arose, and I was expected to mind her while they slept. It was distinctly annoying and I declined further invitations to travel with them.

I can tell you what these people are telling themselves. At home little Larla watches her iPad and we sleep in. When other people are awake, little Larla wants to play and interact and wants to be fed. And so yes, I’m taking care of your kid.

[Anonymous]

Such a hot button issue and one reason we are very cautious about who we vacation with.

I agree that if any of your kids are up, you should be up. At least until the kids are old enough to entertain themselves (and that age should be agreed upon by everyone, whatever it is). But yeah, expecting other adults to watch your young kids while you sleep in is crazy. If you want to sleep in, you and your spouse can take turns. Or it can be an agreed upon rotation for all adults, with each family getting a chance to sleep in. But if there is one family sleeping in while their kid is entertained and served breakfast by the others, it will be annoying.

However, as a family of three who has a kid who sleeps in as well, we've encountered people are get annoyed if we ALL sleep in until 9 or so, including DD. They have a certain vision of everyone getting up at 6:30 or 7am (when they get up), making and eating breakfast together, and then going out to do something together. And if that expectation is communicated ahead of time, we can make it work (though it will never be earlier than 7:30 for us, sorry). But sometimes it's just assumed "oh everyone with kids wakes up before 7 and eats a large breakfast and then leaves the house by 8am." We don't. We like to sleep in, sometimes breakfast is just fruit and cereal, and depending on the vacation, we might not get going until 10 or 11am, because we value relaxing and not having a schedule to adhere to on certain days.

We also like staying up a bit later, playing games and enjoying family togetherness, when on vacation. Some families still adhere to strict bedtimes for kids on vacation. Different strokes for different folks. But don't assume everyone is just like you and then get mad when it turns out they aren't. There is more than one way to vacation with a family and it's obnoxious to act like there is something "wrong" with the way others do it.

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Anonymous wrote:You should be awake with your earliest-rising child. I went on vacation with a couple that lounged in bed two hours after their daughter arose, and I was expected to mind her while they slept. It was distinctly annoying and I declined further invitations to travel with them.

+1. It was DHs friend and DH slept in too. DH was mad I refused to travel with them again as they had nice family vacation homes. But I wasn’t going to be the designated babysitter.

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Anonymous wrote:You should be awake with your earliest-rising child. I went on vacation with a couple that lounged in bed two hours after their daughter arose, and I was expected to mind her while they slept. It was distinctly annoying and I declined further invitations to travel with them.

We had friends staying with us once and my friend was upset because we didn’t get up on the weekend when our kids got up. She felt she had to babysit. Our routine was for the kids to get up and watch tv or play on their electronics and only come to us if needed. I didn’t want or expect any babysitting. It was so wild to me that she felt put upon when no one had asked her for anything (they were staying with us due to an emergency at their own house).

[Anonymous]

Agree that you should wake up with your first child that wakes up, unless they are self sufficient and can be quiet. My 12 year old sometimes wakes up early and just reads in bed. It also depends on if people are jet lagged, etc. We sometimes travel with families coming from vastly different time zones- some are as much as 8 hours off their usual schedule, so they are encouraged to sleep in!

Otherwise we usually make a schedule for the next day and decide when we need to the house, so everyone allots how much time they need in the morning. If I have guests staying with me, I tell them that I will cover breakfast so that they don’t feel the need to wake up early to help prepare it.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of factors at play here

1. Are there kids involved? So other families would have to watch sleeping parents ' kids?
2. Is there an expectation that you all have breakfast together or something?
3. Are they waiting on you to do something? Like youre supposed to be going to the beach but they won't go until you're up and ready.

Regarding 2 and 3, if you have not communicated these expectations to the people you're vacationing with, it is you who is being rude, not them.

Also, we've run into issues with how elaborate people expect breakfast to be. We had a family we used to vacation with but they'd want to trade making breakfast off. Which would be fine, but their expectation was that each morning we'd make a 5 course breakfast. But we are generally not big eaters in the morning and I don't want to get up every other morning and make a huge mess of food and then also have to clean it up before doing a single bit of relaxing, sight-seeing, beach time, etc. I'm on vacation, not starting a new job as a caterer.

Point is: TELL people your expectations. And be open to the idea that not everyone wants to eat the way you do or have the same schedule. The key to vacationing with other families is not to find a family who has all the exact same wants and priorities as you (it will not happen), it's to be flexible and leave space for reasonable compromise or for people to do thinks their own way on their own time at certain parts of the day.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should be awake with your earliest-rising child. I went on vacation with a couple that lounged in bed two hours after their daughter arose, and I was expected to mind her while they slept. It was distinctly annoying and I declined further invitations to travel with them.

We had friends staying with us once and my friend was upset because we didn’t get up on the weekend when our kids got up. She felt she had to babysit. Our routine was for the kids to get up and watch tv or play on their electronics and only come to us if needed. I didn’t want or expect any babysitting. It was so wild to me that she felt put upon when no one had asked her for anything (they were staying with us due to an emergency at their own house).

LOL, thank you for proving 08:29’s point.

[Anonymous]

There is no appropriate time, there is only what works for the families involved. The only way to know that is to talk with the other families about their preferences and expectations and your preferences and expectations.