If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?

[Anonymous]

Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.

Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).

They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 young adult sons who visit my home, one lives in the area, one does not. When my sons are visiting overnight, I feel like I do more work (shopping,cooking and cleaning). It seems they revert to being a teens again. Chores divide up organically? What does that even mean?

[Anonymous]

My adult children in their 20’s come home for holidays and it is exhausting. I wouldn’t want to live like that all year long.

[Anonymous]

Late 20s DS moved back home when pandemic shut down his workplace and the area he lived became dicey. He was able to do his work and a graduate degree remotely. He gets free room and board but pays all his other expenses, does his own laundry, does the dishes and vacuums the house, takes out the trash daily and drives his disabled sister on errands. DH had an emergency surgery and it was a godsend to have another capable adult around to help. Security-wise, our house always has a car in the driveway and someone at home to take in packages. He'll be moving out this summer when his new job starts with a healthy bank account from saving on rent and food. Win-win for our family.

[Anonymous]

Out of our 2 ac only our 25 year old still lives with us. She is single and all about advancing her career. We don't see her moving out anytime soon and don't mind. She is able to save all her money since we don't ask her to pay for anything besides her own bills (car, insurance, cc etc). She has a strong personality and knows what she wants and needs and will need a partner who can handle that.

We benefit because she brings us laughter and more time spent together as a family. Dh says it brings him peace of mind knowing she home and safe.

Our 27 year old lives in the apartment above us with her partner and our 2 grandsons and that benefits us by allowing us to be involved grandparents and the joy of seeing our grandsons daily and watching them grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.

Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).

They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.

Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.

Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).

They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.

Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).

I know some married sons and their families (DW, DC) live in parents (IL) home. They pool in money to buy big homes in good school district that they could not afford on their own early in their married life.

Not true that women/men want someone who lives on their own. The wives of these men have big careers and they do not want to become SAHMs to raise their kids. They only trust their ILs to look after their kids and it work well. Very successful and affluent families now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 young adult sons who visit my home, one lives in the area, one does not. When my sons are visiting overnight, I feel like I do more work (shopping, cooking and cleaning). It seems they revert to being a teens again. Chores divide up organically? What does that even mean?

My DC does laundry for the whole family, and takes out the trash and recycling. Does the occasional yard work and takes care of all the cars etc. Does not do normal cleaning but has completely organized the garage and decluttered the basement. Does the small errands - returns, drycleaning, picking up prescriptions etc. They take the dog for a run when they go running.

I think when they come only for visits and holidays then they are guests. It is a lot more work then because you are hosting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My adult children in their 20’s come home for holidays and it is exhausting. I wouldn’t want to live like that all year long.

That's visiting. Not living together. Very different scenarios.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.

Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).

They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.

Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).

I know some married sons and their families (DW, DC) live in parents (IL) home. They pool in money to buy big homes in good school district that they could not afford on their own early in their married life.

Not true that women/men want someone who lives on their own. The wives of these men have big careers and they do not want to become SAHMs to raise their kids. They only trust their ILs to look after their kids and it work well. Very successful and affluent families now.

I know a Chinese-American family like this. Parents are both law partners and her parents live with them to help raise grandchildren. Allowed them to live in a great school district and save a ton of money for college. Grandparents will be looked after in this home when they are elderly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My adult children in their 20’s come home for holidays and it is exhausting. I wouldn’t want to live like that all year long.

Stop spoiling them and it won't be so exhausting.

[Anonymous]

We are raising our (currently) sole grandchild, so when childless AC comes over, they love to play with grand DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.

Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).

They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.

We have almost the same situation and enjoy all these exact benefits too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.

Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).

They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.

Interesting question. I have four ACs, and the youngest (DD24, single) lives with us at home. After she graduated from an out-of-state university in 2020, she moved home. She's steadily worked full-time, and she's now working on her graduate degree through UMGC at night while working during the day. We don't charge for rent, groceries, or utilities. She pays for her car expenses (gas, insurance, etc.), and she picks up items for us at the grocery store occasionally when she stops by after work. One factor for her being at home is her mental health, because she struggles with depression/anxiety/ADHD, but she recently started a new med that seems to be more helpful than what she's tried in the past. Now here's the answer to your question:

*she's at home taking care of our dogs when we travel (we often go 2 weeks at a time)
*definitely companionship - she's amazing & we're very close
*she helps with chores (dishes, laundry, pet care)
*agree with family socializing - my mom eats with us at least 2x/week, so DD24 is also here for that

I never thought much about the benefits of a multi-generational household before the past couple of years, as it isn't something typically a part of our culture, but DH and I genuinely love this time with her. I know that life is long, and there will come a time when we have nobody at home but us. We cherish this opportunity to be in DD24's life. DH and I have plenty of time for ourselves, and as we're about to retire within the year, it will be a relief to be able to travel without restrictions.

[Anonymous]

Depends if they have ever lived on their own. On their own is crucial for development into an independent adult.