HELP, sex during the third trimester

[Anonymous]

I am 31 weeks and my DH and I have begun experiencing difficulties finding a comfortable sexual position now that I am getting bigger. My husband claims that he is having difficulties because he is concerned about crushing me/the baby. We have tried a couple other positions (e.g. sideways, me on top, etc.) but nothing seems to be working well. My DH has tried to reassure me that he is not less attracted to me, but I can't help but feel it is the case. Is this normal? Any suggestions for improving our sex life throughout the remainder of this pregnancy, b.c. neither he nor myself want to wait until I have recovered from delivery.

Thanks

[Anonymous]

I'm 36 weeks and HUGE, but I still get on top even though it's more difficult. I'm not feeling much like having sex too often lately, so I'm sorry I can't help you more.

[Anonymous]

Him on top still works good for us (I'm 34 weeks and have a huge belly). As long as he is sitting, not lying. And ofcourse 'doggy style' although I am aware all the time what his view is ... a huge bum

[Anonymous]

In the beginning of the pregnancy, I was too nervous to have sex. Then, in my second trimester, it got a bit better. But since the baby started kicking/moving so much about 10 weeks ago and now that I'm so big (I'm 34 weeks), my husband is the same as yours - he is scared about hurting me or the baby. He knows rationally that it's not like he is hitting into the baby, but he can't help the thought. Apparently, this is quite common among men (which I find humorous, of course). I have also tried to convince him that it's fine, we just need to go slower or move more carefully, but sex has definitely decreased. I was just reading, though, that an active sex life late into the 3rd trimester helps loosen up the perineum and increase the chances of a vaginal birth vs a C-section? Something like that? Not sure about the specifics of that, but maybe you can tell him that he's doing something that will help you in labor? But I'm right there with you - trying to find something comfortable for me, pleasurable and not guilt-inducing for him, and struggling. We still do me on top and on my side with him behind me, but that's about it, so I have no positional suggestions for you, sorry.

[Anonymous]

I had such a hard time with sex in the 3rd trimester because our son would start moving around like crazy. It was very disturbing and would ruin it for me. I was very ready for tons of sex, but the second the baby started moving I dried up like the desert. At that point we would do it doggie style because that is hubby's clue to hurry it up

[Anonymous]

Lying on our sides, him behind me. That never worked for us before, but we tried and tried to make it work during pregnancy, and now it's a favorite. The belly made me feel gorgeous and earth-mama-ish, but not horny... so I was happy to have it sort of out of the visual field (of both of us!)

Also lots of oral sex and hand jobs. Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

I find I'm uncomfortable in most positions - except on top. Another that works for us is having DH stand off the side of the bed, with me propping myself up a bit with pillows. What I miss about both is my ability to kiss my DH and he me...but it does get the job done.

[Anonymous]

DH on the side facing you. You flat on your back with your legs swung over his thighs. you could even try swinging only one leg on him or whatever works for you. He may have to tilt a little but you'll be very comfortable. if difficult you could both be at right angle to each other!