RSVPs

[Anonymous]

We had a birthday invite from school with a RSVP 2-3 weeks out on say a Friday. Then over the weekend, she texted me an Evite. She has my number bc her DD came to my DD's party with contact info. DD wasn't a firm yes yet. A day later she sent a personalized text reminding me to answer the Evite and then I just felt compelling to respond back and get that RSVP to her.

Was she annoying?

[Anonymous]

Yes, that's annoying. People need to specify a "please RSVP by" date and then leave it alone. Most people aren't going to commit to a kid party 2-3 weeks out unless it's your kids' bff.

[Anonymous]

I only had 3 people out of 10 RSVP to my kids party so I get wanting everyone to RSVP ( It seriously leaves the parents wondering if anyone is coming and exactly how much "food" or " drinks" should we even have? But the texts felt annoying and didn't even adhere to the RSVP deadline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a birthday invite from school with a RSVP 2-3 weeks out on say a Friday. Then over the weekend, she texted me an Evite. She has my number bc her DD came to my DD's party with contact info. DD wasn't a firm yes yet. A day later she sent a personalized text reminding me to answer the Evite and then I just felt compelling to respond back and get that RSVP to her.

Was she annoying?

A little bit annoying - maybe she’s an anxious person. I would have answered the text by saying that you were still figuring out the schedule and were planning to rsvp by x date (the date on the invite); is that rsvp date still ok or did she need an answer sooner for some reason?

She may have been panicking if no one had rsvp’d yet or maybe thinking of changing the date; who knows.

[Anonymous]

I dunno. People so often say that evites get caught in their spam filters that the first text, at least, was justified. After that, I think it's better to just set a deadline and one reminder. But it's not clear from your post how far out the party was.

I also have sympathy because so many people don't RSVP, and it makes it hard to plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, that's annoying. People need to specify a "please RSVP by" date and then leave it alone. Most people aren't going to commit to a kid party 2-3 weeks out unless it's your kids' bff.

2 weeks out is completely reasonable. 3 is probably the outside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a birthday invite from school with a RSVP 2-3 weeks out on say a Friday. Then over the weekend, she texted me an Evite. She has my number bc her DD came to my DD's party with contact info. DD wasn't a firm yes yet. A day later she sent a personalized text reminding me to answer the Evite and then I just felt compelling to respond back and get that RSVP to her.

Was she annoying?

I have been ‘her’ once. We were trying to book a venue where we had to have a firm headcount, bc we couldn’t add people last minute. I will never schedule such thing again, bc it was nerve racking getting ‘the silent treatment’.

A quick reply that you got the invite and will get back to her would have been wet nice.

To the posters that say ‘I wouldn’t rsvp 3 weeks in advance for a kids party’, you’re being inconsiderate. The adults are the ones planning and making it happen, it’s not just a playdate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dunno. People so often say that evites get caught in their spam filters that the first text, at least, was justified. After that, I think it's better to just set a deadline and one reminder. But it's not clear from your post how far out the party was.

I also have sympathy because so many people don't RSVP, and it makes it hard to plan.

I don't get why people can't RSVP by the set date if they are coming? I mean, I haven't responded because I wasn't going once or twice but to bring your kid but never RSVP? It seems inconsiderate to me. But as everyone can see plenty of parents don't.

[Anonymous]

I may text once to make sure they got the invitation. I would only do this for my kid’s good friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, that's annoying. People need to specify a "please RSVP by" date and then leave it alone. Most people aren't going to commit to a kid party 2-3 weeks out unless it's your kids' bff.

2 weeks out is completely reasonable. 3 is probably the outside.

Two weeks is also unreasonable unless you specified to respond by a date that early and haven’t heard anything. Sending reminders to respond to a birthday invitation is annoying unless it passed the date specified on invitation to respond or within a couple days of the party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a birthday invite from school with a RSVP 2-3 weeks out on say a Friday. Then over the weekend, she texted me an Evite. She has my number bc her DD came to my DD's party with contact info. DD wasn't a firm yes yet. A day later she sent a personalized text reminding me to answer the Evite and then I just felt compelling to respond back and get that RSVP to her.

Was she annoying?

Was she communicating after you missed the RSVP date or all the texts came in 2-3 weeks before the RSVP deadline?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had a birthday invite from school with a RSVP 2-3 weeks out on say a Friday. Then over the weekend, she texted me an Evite. She has my number bc her DD came to my DD's party with contact info. DD wasn't a firm yes yet. A day later she sent a personalized text reminding me to answer the Evite and then I just felt compelling to respond back and get that RSVP to her.

Was she annoying?

Was she communicating after you missed the RSVP date or all the texts came in 2-3 weeks before the RSVP deadline?

Before. Friday sent home invite, Sunday Evite text and then Monday personalized text. I didn’t get 2-3 weeks to figure it out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had a birthday invite from school with a RSVP 2-3 weeks out on say a Friday. Then over the weekend, she texted me an Evite. She has my number bc her DD came to my DD's party with contact info. DD wasn't a firm yes yet. A day later she sent a personalized text reminding me to answer the Evite and then I just felt compelling to respond back and get that RSVP to her.

Was she annoying?

Was she communicating after you missed the RSVP date or all the texts came in 2-3 weeks before the RSVP deadline?

Before. Friday sent home invite, Sunday Evite text and then Monday personalized text. I didn’t get 2-3 weeks to figure it out!

So that is why I was wondering if anyone else would find this annoying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had a birthday invite from school with a RSVP 2-3 weeks out on say a Friday. Then over the weekend, she texted me an Evite. She has my number bc her DD came to my DD's party with contact info. DD wasn't a firm yes yet. A day later she sent a personalized text reminding me to answer the Evite and then I just felt compelling to respond back and get that RSVP to her.

Was she annoying?

Was she communicating after you missed the RSVP date or all the texts came in 2-3 weeks before the RSVP deadline?

Before. Friday sent home invite, Sunday Evite text and then Monday personalized text. I didn’t get 2-3 weeks to figure it out!

So that is why I was wondering if anyone else would find this annoying?

I would and I always RSVP either way.

She should set a RSVP date and if no response, one check in is ok with a "just wanted to make sure the invite didn't go to your spam."

Anything more is rude and pushy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had a birthday invite from school with a RSVP 2-3 weeks out on say a Friday. Then over the weekend, she texted me an Evite. She has my number bc her DD came to my DD's party with contact info. DD wasn't a firm yes yet. A day later she sent a personalized text reminding me to answer the Evite and then I just felt compelling to respond back and get that RSVP to her.

Was she annoying?

A little bit annoying - maybe she’s an anxious person. I would have answered the text by saying that you were still figuring out the schedule and were planning to rsvp by x date (the date on the invite); is that rsvp date still ok or did she need an answer sooner for some reason?

She may have been panicking if no one had rsvp’d yet or maybe thinking of changing the date; who knows.

I think she's anxious and trying to control the RSVPs, bc you honestly feel a lack of control when nobody RSVPs. When I hosted ours, I felt all the feels but I had to let it all go to some degree and pray some kids showed up.