Teens and s-xual content

[Anonymous]

At what age do kids start watching stuff on the net?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At what age do kids start watching stuff on the net?

And what age is too early- would you talk to then about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At what age do kids start watching stuff on the net?

I caught my cousin who's living with me watching it at 11.

[Anonymous]

As soon as parents give their kids access to computers, smartphones, or iPads and don’t have super robust controls on them. It’s incredibly damaging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As soon as parents give their kids access to computers, smartphones, or iPads and don’t have super robust controls on them. It’s incredibly damaging.

Do you talk to them about it once you find out?
I am little shocked, but if it wont do any good I am not sure if I should go that way.

[Anonymous]

Assume they’ve seen something by 5th or 6th grade. Smartphones, computers and the internet make it impossible to avoid, especially for boys.

[Anonymous]

And once you see that they have seen some stuff do you ask/talk to them about it?

[Anonymous]

And is it normal thing among teens and you let them keep seeing online stuff?

[Anonymous]

My son is 8 and I just ordered the book Good Pictures Bad Pictures to read and discuss with him. The original version is for ages 7-11 but there is also a Jr version for younger kids. Average age of first porn exposure for boys is 10, so I want to be sure to get out ahead of it.

Porn can mess up a kid’s brain wiring with regard to sex. They get all kinds of unhealthy messages about women, men, relationships. If they accidentally or otherwise access pictures of underage people, you’ve got a child pornography situation on your hands. I’m a teacher and see the messes that kids can get into. So no, I would not let it go or accept it as okay even if it’s common.

The following was posted here several years ago and I actually saved it in my iPhone notes for down the road with my kids because I thought it was a sensible way to address it with a young teen:

“Basically, if you are using our device and are a minor, you cannot use it to download, read or view inappropriate content. Which Is defined in our house as anything that will get you in trouble with parents, the principal or the police.

Curiously about porn is normal. But we have concerns about you viewing porn before you are in a mature adult relationship, because healthy relationships are nothing like porn, and we don’t want you to think they are. You are hooking your device up to the school network, and we don’t want you to accidentally upload an pornographic image. Of course, naked pictures of teens— that you know IRL or that you download are kiddie porn, and you could end up in jail and on the sex offender registry.

Kid got a warning and it happened again, so he lost his phone for a period of time.

Honestly, I am only going to check behind my kid so much. If they delete their browsing history, don’t download, etc, and I see not eveidemce of porn on a causal review, then I am not going digging for it. But if I see it, I am not going to pretend I didn’t. It was a couple of unfun conversations. But I can’t condone viewing or downloading porn onto a device I pay for. It’s sketchy for adult men. It’s not okay for 14 year olds”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assume they’ve seen something by 5th or 6th grade. Smartphones, computers and the internet make it impossible to avoid, especially for boys.

You cannot protect your kids from p*rn. It is not possible.

Irresponsible parents give their own kids wide-open access smartphones at earlier and earlier ages.

Those kids WILL show your own child things.

The only thing you can do is talk with your children, keep communication open, and try to help them understand things they were not meant to see at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is 8 and I just ordered the book Good Pictures Bad Pictures to read and discuss with him. The original version is for ages 7-11 but there is also a Jr version for younger kids. Average age of first porn exposure for boys is 10, so I want to be sure to get out ahead of it.

Porn can mess up a kid’s brain wiring with regard to sex. They get all kinds of unhealthy messages about women, men, relationships. If they accidentally or otherwise access pictures of underage people, you’ve got a child pornography situation on your hands. I’m a teacher and see the messes that kids can get into. So no, I would not let it go or accept it as okay even if it’s common.

The following was posted here several years ago and I actually saved it in my iPhone notes for down the road with my kids because I thought it was a sensible way to address it with a young teen:

“Basically, if you are using our device and are a minor, you cannot use it to download, read or view inappropriate content. Which Is defined in our house as anything that will get you in trouble with parents, the principal or the police.

Curiously about porn is normal. But we have concerns about you viewing porn before you are in a mature adult relationship, because healthy relationships are nothing like porn, and we don’t want you to think they are. You are hooking your device up to the school network, and we don’t want you to accidentally upload an pornographic image. Of course, naked pictures of teens— that you know IRL or that you download are kiddie porn, and you could end up in jail and on the sex offender registry.

Kid got a warning and it happened again, so he lost his phone for a period of time.

Honestly, I am only going to check behind my kid so much. If they delete their browsing history, don’t download, etc, and I see not eveidemce of porn on a causal review, then I am not going digging for it. But if I see it, I am not going to pretend I didn’t. It was a couple of unfun conversations. But I can’t condone viewing or downloading porn onto a device I pay for. It’s sketchy for adult men. It’s not okay for 14 year olds”

I looked into his phone he is 14.5. He had some site on that I saw in his browsing history that shows porn.
I am quite upset about it. He got a phone late but had ipad earlier of course.

[Anonymous]

Yes, definitely talk to him about it. The script pp posted was excellent.
He needs to know that if you found it easily, so could his school or anyone else and he could be in big trouble.
It's also important for kids to hear that real life and real relationships and real bodies and real desires are often not at all like what is portrayed. They need to know that that stuff can be addictive and really need with your head. It's hard to unsee things.

[Anonymous]

Start here:

The Boy Scouts of America (now known as Scouts-BSA) has partnered with WebSmartz to sponsor a diverse , inclusive , and fun guide for children to learn about safety on the web:

https://www.missingkids.org/netsmartz/videos

These videos are entertaining for kids to watch And learn.

[Anonymous]

Yes you talk to them about it. There are resources to help you through the convo. Podcasts to listen to. Google a bit.

But yes, you 100 percent talk to them about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start here:

The Boy Scouts of America (now known as Scouts-BSA) has partnered with WebSmartz to sponsor a diverse , inclusive , and fun guide for children to learn about safety on the web:

https://www.missingkids.org/netsmartz/videos

These videos are entertaining for kids to watch And learn.

I can't imagine getting advice on this from an org with a history of sexual abuse of children.