Professional (business) fraternities

[Anonymous]

DS is a college freshman. We did not let him rush a social fraternity his first year so that he can focus on grades. He's now interested in a business, professional type of fraternity. I think it's co-ed. Any thoughts on this type of organization and whether or not it is beneficial, now or as an alum?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes these organizations are very helpful for mentorship and getting the student prepared for recruiting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is a college freshman. We did not let him rush a social fraternity his first year so that he can focus on grades. He's now interested in a business, professional type of fraternity. I think it's co-ed. Any thoughts on this type of organization and whether or not it is beneficial, now or as an alum?

My DC is in a professional coed fraternity for pre med students and his best friend from high school is in a selective school club that is like a business fraternity. They have both found them hugely helpful. The business guy adds that regular fraternities can be helpful too in terms of business connections.

[Anonymous]

Consider Alpha Phi Omega, too, which is neither a traditional social fraternity nor a business fraternity, but is instead a co-ed national service and philanthropic organization based on the principles of Scouting. https://apo.org/

[Anonymous]

Not sure why it would hurt. But sometimes they can be hard to get into.

[Anonymous]

OP mine did and and liked it.

He made nice friends and learned quite a bit.

I don't see a down side. It's just a club. Better than a traditional frat drinking culture.

[Anonymous]

You didn't "let" your adult college student join a fraternity, and now you're asking strangers on an anonymous message board whether you should "let" him join a business frat? Land the damn helicopter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You didn't "let" your adult college student join a fraternity, and now you're asking strangers on an anonymous message board whether you should "let" him join a business frat? Land the damn helicopter.

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WTAF, OP. Let your child become an adult, let your child grow up! Are you going to apply for jobs for him, too? How do you think that will go? Do you think an employer wants an employee such as that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn't "let" your adult college student join a fraternity, and now you're asking strangers on an anonymous message board whether you should "let" him join a business frat? Land the damn helicopter.

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WTAF, OP. Let your child become an adult, let your child grow up! Are you going to apply for jobs for him, too? How do you think that will go? Do you think an employer wants an employee such as that?

Well bless your heart. Did we get up on the wrong side of the bed this morning?

Sorry that my post was such a trigger for you, PPs. I can only think that this means that you are the kind of mommies whose first priority is that their boys "like" them, and that you experience a twinge of guilt when you read questions like this because you realize that you have no idea what your own college-age sons are up to, as long as they are "happy?"

You're absolutely correct that we did not let him join a social fraternity during his first year. I have no intention of subsidizing $6K in dues and fees, on top of his $70K plus a year education, until he at least proves that he is able to maintain a GPA that is worthy of that amount of money being spent. But if you will reread my OP instead of merely reacting in a triggered fashion, you will see that I did not at all comment one way or the other on whether or not he joins this professional organization. I was merely asking others to tell me about this type of group, as I am not really familiar with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn't "let" your adult college student join a fraternity, and now you're asking strangers on an anonymous message board whether you should "let" him join a business frat? Land the damn helicopter.

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WTAF, OP. Let your child become an adult, let your child grow up! Are you going to apply for jobs for him, too? How do you think that will go? Do you think an employer wants an employee such as that?

Well bless your heart. Did we get up on the wrong side of the bed this morning?

Sorry that my post was such a trigger for you, PPs. I can only think that this means that you are the kind of mommies whose first priority is that their boys "like" them, and that you experience a twinge of guilt when you read questions like this because you realize that you have no idea what your own college-age sons are up to, as long as they are "happy?"

You're absolutely correct that we did not let him join a social fraternity during his first year. I have no intention of subsidizing $6K in dues and fees, on top of his $70K plus a year education, until he at least proves that he is able to maintain a GPA that is worthy of that amount of money being spent. But if you will reread my OP instead of merely reacting in a triggered fashion, you will see that I did not at all comment one way or the other on whether or not he joins this professional organization. I was merely asking others to tell me about this type of group, as I am not really familiar with it.

You clearly didn't get a bid when you were in college, geed. The only way a frat costs anywhere near $6K a year is if you live in the house, in which case you don't have to pay for a dorm or apartment so it evens out. Just admit that isn't about the money but your need to still feel "needed" by your adult kid and your resulting inability to let go and let him live.

[Anonymous]

Well bless your heart. Did we get up on the wrong side of the bed this morning?

Sorry that my post was such a trigger for you, PPs. I can only think that this means that you are the kind of mommies whose first priority is that their boys "like" them, and that you experience a twinge of guilt when you read questions like this because you realize that you have no idea what your own college-age sons are up to, as long as they are "happy?"

You're absolutely correct that we did not let him join a social fraternity during his first year. I have no intention of subsidizing $6K in dues and fees, on top of his $70K plus a year education, until he at least proves that he is able to maintain a GPA that is worthy of that amount of money being spent. But if you will reread my OP instead of merely reacting in a triggered fashion, you will see that I did not at all comment one way or the other on whether or not he joins this professional organization. I was merely asking others to tell me about this type of group, as I am not really familiar with it.

DP. My priorities are to have healthy, respectful relationships with my kids, and for them to make the most of their opportunities at college, including academic and otherwise. My kids proved in high school that they are dedicated, diligent students who work hard and are motivated. Until they show me otherwise in college, I did or will assume that their work ethics will remain the same and will reasonably support them in taking advantage of everything their college offers.

OP, your posts are condescending and you sound very controlling, and you do need to land the helicopter. You might think you found reasonable, but you absolutely do not.

[Anonymous]

Your college aged son tells you that much and listens to you? I don’t think I even told my parents when I rushed a social sorority my freshman year. Did he ask your permission? Does he ask permission to date too?

[Anonymous]

Beware: even some business fraternities are cutthroat, social and rush/haze with significant focus on binge drinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Beware: even some business fraternities are cutthroat, social and rush/haze with significant focus on binge drinking.

Depends on the school - you might be surprised!