Facebook over-sharing

[Anonymous]

Thoughts on parents that post their kid's report cards?

[Anonymous]

Yikes!!!!!

[Anonymous]

If it makes them happy, go for it. I'd never do it.

[Anonymous]

Makes me cringe. But a lot of over sharing on SM does. The worst ever was a former coworker who posted detailed updates surrounding a medical issue her 20 something year old was having with his balls. And tagged him! I felt so bad

[Anonymous]

I feel pretty much "you-do-you" on social media. Block it if you don't like it .

But I don't care for the report card posts. I'm a SPED teacher and work in a school with serious socioeconomic and emotional needs. I teared up with happy tears when a student brought my his grades that were all Cs and Ds! He passed everything and that was a huge deal. Posting As and Bs on social media does seem braggy, though I'm sure your kids worked hard for that too.

One of my kids gets As without trying. The other WORKS for those Bs. But those grades are between the kid, the parent, and the teachers.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same as I do people who post on Xmas Eve a photo of their family room overflowing with wrapped gifts for their kids. Tacky and insensitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty much "you-do-you" on social media. Block it if you don't like it .

But I don't care for the report card posts. I'm a SPED teacher and work in a school with serious socioeconomic and emotional needs. I teared up with happy tears when a student brought my his grades that were all Cs and Ds! He passed everything and that was a huge deal. Posting As and Bs on social media does seem braggy, though I'm sure your kids worked hard for that too.

One of my kids gets As without trying. The other WORKS for those Bs. But those grades are between the kid, the parent, and the teachers.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

I mean, c’mon OP, you don’t see that very often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel the same as I do people who post on Xmas Eve a photo of their family room overflowing with wrapped gifts for their kids. Tacky and insensitive.

I still remember the first time I saw someone to this, with a caption like “I hope your tree is as well stocked as mine!” Or something. I think my jaw actually dropped at how oblivious this is. Some people have no grace.

[Anonymous]

I have friends who constantly posted "So Proud" ...of all the "academic accomplishments" through elementary school and then radio silence.... as their child was being counselled out.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t bother me. I assume the parent posted it because it was a big accomplishment or turnaround for the kid. Maybe overcoming adhd or other issues. Or maybe they just had bad grades before and really worked hard. Good for them.

I actually think it’s sad that we all frown on other kids’ small or big accomplishments these days, and we can’t acknowledge them without feeling jealous about our own kids’ struggles, or we have to scoff at these accomplishments for not being brag-worthy enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t bother me. I assume the parent posted it because it was a big accomplishment or turnaround for the kid. Maybe overcoming adhd or other issues. Or maybe they just had bad grades before and really worked hard. Good for them.

I actually think it’s sad that we all frown on other kids’ small or big accomplishments these days, and we can’t acknowledge them without feeling jealous about our own kids’ struggles, or we have to scoff at these accomplishments for not being brag-worthy enough.

We aren't frowning on the accomplishments, it's the bragging (and that's what it is) on social media to hundreds of "friends". Share it with close family, maybe some close friends, and of course let your kids know you're proud of their hard work. Otherwise it comes across as patting yourself on the back.

[Anonymous]

I think the solution is to stay off social media because:
"too many kid photos"
"too many pet photos"
"too many selfies"
"too much bragging about their kids"
"too much bragging about their work accomplishments"
"too much politics"
"too many braggy vacation photos"
"too much whining about personal problems"
"too many food posts. I don't care about that ham sandwich you had for lunch."

These are all complaints I have heard from real people. Maybe this is why I never post on social media. I'm not sure what is left to post about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the solution is to stay off social media because:
"too many kid photos"
"too many pet photos"
"too many selfies"
"too much bragging about their kids"
"too much bragging about their work accomplishments"
"too much politics"
"too many braggy vacation photos"
"too much whining about personal problems"
"too many food posts. I don't care about that ham sandwich you had for lunch."

These are all complaints I have heard from real people. Maybe this is why I never post on social media. I'm not sure what is left to post about

I mean, this is the problem with social media, is that it aggregates everything. Most of what people complain about seeing on social media, they wouldn't mind receiving in a text from a friend or close family member. There is something about the public nature of SM, combined with the fact that everyone is doing it all at once, that grates.

Like if a friend told me she was super proud of her kid's grades this semester, especially if she talked about how it was an improvement or she knew how hard her kid worked for those grades, I'd be thrilled for her. Zero judgment. But on social media, if multiple people shared their kid's grades, it starts to feel like you are being inundated and it's weird.

I don't just individual people for what they post on social media and I wouldn't tell someone what to post or not post, but the reason I stay off social media is that I do feel like when you see everyone's posts aggregated there, it does tend to feel like too much of kids/vacations/politics/whining/food/work/selfies/pets. I'm not rejecting the people on social media. I'm rejecting the platform itself. I'd rather just hear about this stuff in person or via text or email, where there is context and I can focus on the specific person sharing it instead of getting a feed of everyone I'm connected to sharing at once (or what feels like at once, even though obviously it's not).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, c’mon OP, you don’t see that very often.

No OP but I saw this today for two middle schoolers. It’s such a weird post.
It’s insensitive to those struggling like those in the teachers post. And yes I’m going to say that it’s insensitive, bc this mom lectures us all on her views constantly and PSAs her thoughts to us all.