If you are a caregiver of an elderly parent,

[Anonymous]

how can your out of town siblings help you?

[Anonymous]

I:
-order groceries weekly delivered to house
-order things needed from Amazon
-arrange for plumbers to get to house etc
-pay all the bills that are not automatic drafted

[Anonymous]

Calling the parent to listen about their day and telling interesting parts of your day can lessen caregiver's duty to provide small talk.

[Anonymous]

-Take care of financial aspects and bill paying
-Agree to provide coverage for you to go away occasionally, whether it’s them or they hire someone else
-they take care of purchasing any needs
-do prelim research on drs (find ones that are close,
Make sure there is easy parking, that the take their insurance, how they are rated. Let them give him a couple to choose from that they vetted
-have them set up video calls with them/their kids so they have something to look forward to and you have a few min of peace; if your elderly one is able they can even play games together online to pass the time

[Anonymous]

Make sure the parent stays appreciate. If the parent is difficult, support your sibling and encourage the parent to be gracious.

My sibling thought sending me a bunch of junk she bought online was doing her part. I asked her to stop sending me stuff I don't want or need and to instead encourage mom to be gracious not just to us, but to doctors, nurses, helpers. Instead my sibling complained to mom that I told her to stop sending me a bunch of stuff. That created drama and stress.

[Anonymous]

Relieve me. Yes, use some of your vacation time. Come for a long weekend or a week, and let me leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Relieve me. Yes, use some of your vacation time. Come for a long weekend or a week, and let me leave.

This. And Pls offer to watch kids, too, if it’s a sandwich generation situation. Some of us are drowning in eldercare w young elementary kids and never get a break.