Parent coming home from hospital-had pneumonia and sepsi- readiness steps

[Anonymous]

Parent returning home, other parent not considering all readiness requirements. House has been cleaned, sheets and towels will be washed. Checking on food for quick meal. What other steps?

[Anonymous]

Are you always this rude and judgmental? Somehow in asking for help you managed to slip in a swipe at one of your parents. We get it: you’re amazing and think of others and all the details. Go you!

[Anonymous]

Ignore the nasty PP. Your frail parent will need lots of help. My widowed MIL went home after her sepsis to a house with her trusty household help, who cook, clean, and do everything for her. If the other parent can take over all cooking, even feed her, help her with bathroom stuff, etc, then you won’t need to hire someone. Someone also needs to manage the medication schedule, if there are lots of meds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the nasty PP. Your frail parent will need lots of help. My widowed MIL went home after her sepsis to a house with her trusty household help, who cook, clean, and do everything for her. If the other parent can take over all cooking, even feed her, help her with bathroom stuff, etc, then you won’t need to hire someone. Someone also needs to manage the medication schedule, if there are lots of meds.

Thank you…good advice

[Anonymous]

If your parent had any anesthesia, but even if they didn’t, be prepared for severe cognitive and behavioral symptoms. Imo they don’t warn people about this enough but even if you felt they were okay cognitively before the hospital stay, they may not be now. Top things to look out for are rough evenings and managing anything like medication, house stuff, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you always this rude and judgmental? Somehow in asking for help you managed to slip in a swipe at one of your parents. We get it: you’re amazing and think of others and all the details. Go you!

Your attempt at trying to steer this thread in a negative direction has failed miserably PP.

You are a joke.

[Anonymous]

Needs to be released into nursing home rehab if possible, depending on the age and ability of your other parent. It may not be possible for them to take on the caregiver role u less you stay there and help them.

[Anonymous]

Will a home nurse be checking in on parent? If your parent was hospitalized for a number of days, they will be weak. Ask doctor for PT and OT, I believe Medicare pays for this.

[Anonymous]

My siblings and I helped with my mom for several months. Here is how you do the medical part -

- Have tables set up with trays to have the supplies and equipment in place. Group according to activity.
- Color code the medication based on when to give the medication. (Blue for night, Yellow for day)
- Print out medicines and schedules in big bold letters and paste it on two walls.
- Have a log book in which you jot down oxygen level, BP, temp - twice a day. List any other symptoms that the patient talks about or you can observe.
- Log the medications after it has been given. Make your patient also be aware that medication has been given and make them repeat the name of the medication.
- Have the address and phone number of doctors and phamacists ready.
- Keep an eye on the medical supplies and get the refills filled sooner rather than later.

- We created a whatsapp group of family members and we exchanged information about the patient there.

[Anonymous]

Are the able to walk? Use shower and toilet independently? Are they confused or will they need help with medication?

[Anonymous]

Been there, OP. Is the home practical and safe for this parent to return? I ask because my parents’ forever home is and was impractical for senior living to include just entering the house: there is no entrance without a step. Also BRs atop a winding staircase with just a tiny powder room on main level.

For these reasons, my ailing parent was unable to return home after hip surgery after a fall in an upstairs master bath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the nasty PP. Your frail parent will need lots of help. My widowed MIL went home after her sepsis to a house with her trusty household help, who cook, clean, and do everything for her. If the other parent can take over all cooking, even feed her, help her with bathroom stuff, etc, then you won’t need to hire someone. Someone also needs to manage the medication schedule, if there are lots of meds.

Thank you…good advice

You are not taking swipes. Of course your other parent isn’t ready - who is ready for this, even in the best of circumstances, and I am guessing that other parent is justifiably scared about the situation. It’s very loving of you to step up to fill the gaps and troubleshoot and give support. What you describe is real life on all counts and best wishes to your whole family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you always this rude and judgmental? Somehow in asking for help you managed to slip in a swipe at one of your parents. We get it: you’re amazing and think of others and all the details. Go you!

Omg. Please go TF away.

[Anonymous]

I almost died of sepsis. It left me weak for months. A mini-fridge in my bedroom was very helpful because I could keep drinks and small nutritious snacks nearby. My bedroom was ten steps to the bathroom, but I imagine some way to wash hands would have been nice if it was on a different floor.

[Anonymous]

The antibiotics will most likely messed up the stomach and cause incontinence. Diapers and bidet are a must.

Bed rail if the bed is high and not huge. My dad fell off his bed once and could not get up till I went to check on him an hour later (at 3am).

Hot and cold drinking water by the bedside.

Space heater for bed and bathrooms.