Transfer out of CMU after one semester

[Anonymous]

Anyone with a kid transferring out of CMU after one semester? DS is a freshman, CS major at CMU, and he just came home this past weekend. He is seriously considering not coming back for the spring semester. Classes at CMU are too hard for him and the competition is so fierce. He spent at least 80 hours a week just studying and tried to keep up with academics. His older brother graduated from CMU in 2019 and advised him to transfer out of CMU. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Let him! He’s telling you what he needs.

[Anonymous]

There actually was a similar post last year, you could probably find it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone with a kid transferring out of CMU after one semester? DS is a freshman, CS major at CMU, and he just came home this past weekend. He is seriously considering not coming back for the spring semester. Classes at CMU are too hard for him and the competition is so fierce. He spent at least 80 hours a week just studying and tried to keep up with academics. His older brother graduated from CMU in 2019 and advised him to transfer out of CMU. Thoughts?

Your son can't be coddled all his life. He should man up and study harder.

[Anonymous]

You and he should trust his feelings on this. I had a similar experience in a different STEM school, and I stubbornly stuck with it until my mental health declined and I flunked out. Would have been much better to transfer. You can help by assuring him it’s okay. My parents didn’t help at all, and in fact raged at me for failing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone with a kid transferring out of CMU after one semester? DS is a freshman, CS major at CMU, and he just came home this past weekend. He is seriously considering not coming back for the spring semester. Classes at CMU are too hard for him and the competition is so fierce. He spent at least 80 hours a week just studying and tried to keep up with academics. His older brother graduated from CMU in 2019 and advised him to transfer out of CMU. Thoughts?

Your son can't be coddled all his life. He should man up and study harder.

This is wrong and stupid.

[Anonymous]

Let your DS decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone with a kid transferring out of CMU after one semester? DS is a freshman, CS major at CMU, and he just came home this past weekend. He is seriously considering not coming back for the spring semester. Classes at CMU are too hard for him and the competition is so fierce. He spent at least 80 hours a week just studying and tried to keep up with academics. His older brother graduated from CMU in 2019 and advised him to transfer out of CMU. Thoughts?

Your son can't be coddled all his life. He should man up and study harder.

What is wrong with you! The kid is putting in 80 hours already! OP, maybe try to get him some help in figuring out if he needs to change his approach to the work (change study technique etc.); if after this he still has the same results and still want to transfer out try to work with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone with a kid transferring out of CMU after one semester? DS is a freshman, CS major at CMU, and he just came home this past weekend. He is seriously considering not coming back for the spring semester. Classes at CMU are too hard for him and the competition is so fierce. He spent at least 80 hours a week just studying and tried to keep up with academics. His older brother graduated from CMU in 2019 and advised him to transfer out of CMU. Thoughts?

Your son can't be coddled all his life. He should man up and study harder.

Teenage trolls are on winter break already? You will get your comeuppance.

[Anonymous]

As a point of curiosity, but also as guidance for our son, was your son admitted test optional or through a hook? What were his test scores? Did you think he was ready for CMU, especially since your older son had experience there?

[Anonymous]

The first year is often the hardest. Students come in with a huge range in background and many have a lot of leveling up to do.

[Anonymous]

CM is a great program however not every kid is smart enough/ fact.

OP no reason to struggle that hard. Have them come home go to community college then transfer. This way they have a better foundation.

Mine went to CM to this program I understand. Mine did not find it hard. I don't say that lightly. Mine had a great foundation from their local public school. Yes public can prepare you for this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:CM is a great program however not every kid is smart enough/ fact.

OP no reason to struggle that hard. Have them come home go to community college then transfer. This way they have a better foundation.

Mine went to CM to this program I understand. Mine did not find it hard. I don't say that lightly. Mine had a great foundation from their local public school. Yes public can prepare you for this.

OP, please ignore the bragging, obnoxious parents like this. Your son does not need community college, he just needs to transfer to another college. HE.IS.SMART.ENOUGH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:CM is a great program however not every kid is smart enough/ fact.

OP no reason to struggle that hard. Have them come home go to community college then transfer. This way they have a better foundation.

Mine went to CM to this program I understand. Mine did not find it hard. I don't say that lightly. Mine had a great foundation from their local public school. Yes public can prepare you for this.

So CM or community college? This makes no sense!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CM is a great program however not every kid is smart enough/ fact.

OP no reason to struggle that hard. Have them come home go to community college then transfer. This way they have a better foundation.

Mine went to CM to this program I understand. Mine did not find it hard. I don't say that lightly. Mine had a great foundation from their local public school. Yes public can prepare you for this.

OP, please ignore the bragging, obnoxious parents like this. Your son does not need community college, he just needs to transfer to another college. HE.IS.SMART.ENOUGH.

Wow, the fragile mamas are out in force today.

This is not a bragging and obnoxious parent; it's one who has ridden the road and has good advice. There is nothing wrong with community college.